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Summary....

She's almost 19, acts like a 10 yo still. Didn't bathe till this morning,  wash her face or brush her teeth. I know this because the towels I left for her were untouched until this morning. The day she leaves. I told DH the reason her hair looked so dark is because it was so dirty.

She gave DH a pack of dried seaweed that he likes for his gift (suspect it was from BMs cupboard). I got nothing. She gave us a house gift of two trivets she made in high school. Which is ok but obviously out of convenience.

Xmas

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It's been pretty chill. I was exhausted yesterday, messed up the gravy, overbaked turkey by a few minutes. Not my usual standards. But veg and potatoes were good. And the champs. Smile

YSD made her usual vegan meal, still barely any conversation out of her. She volunteers nothing. I gave up.

 

Holidays!

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Hi all - it's been a bit but I've been super super busy with work and "real" life so haven't had time to poke my head in. I'll have to do some reading and catch up on everyone's situation, especially around the holidaze.

Ysd18

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...has left the building.

Shell be on her way to college in six days. DH did good with her while she was here.

They talked, actually talked. He told her he and I were having some personal things to deal with and this I was in the guest room. He's out to dinner with her now, one last time before she goes back to BMs. She ate out TWICE while here, astounding.

....continuation 2

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So H is back.

I have no fear he's going to hurt anyone at all. So I am safe, 100%.

He has spoken with his therapist 2x - and will likely continue with her several times a week for now. We don't think hospitalization is needed at this point. He agrees he is not in a state of suicide at this point, even though it's still in the background for him.

Update on my Situation

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Ok, I've been processing a LOT. I have a counselor I like, we've had one meeting so far, and another for later this week; we'll be meeting weekly for the forseeable future (I'm lucky she's a Zoom user because it's not easy for me to get to the city due to location).

It's been hard. I've been mostly angry, some sadness is starting to set in now though. Anxiety too.

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