I've not been posting for a while because things are settling down.
Or, i.e. DH has been stepping up!
:jawdrop:

This summer I let DH know that if I came home and that kitchen was a mess I'd pack everything up and we'd be eating off paper plates. Well, that kitchen was clean all the time (except maybe once or twice) and it was divine. DH even cooked most meals when SDs were with us. Which also enlightened him on SD13s picky eating.

So SDs are with us for a month.

Except SD11 who is off to a week long camp soonish.

DH never did plan a vacation with them after I refused to do so. He then tried, literally, blaming me. You know, because I have the ability to organize and plan ahead and he can't. I told him that no, I'm NOT planning a vacation for "everyone" on my own, period. If it's he and I alone, sure. Add the SDs, then he must, must help on every decision because nothing is blowing back onto me. I've learned. So by the end of that conversation he apologized and we moved on.

So DH and I were having a lovely evening last night...until...

I discovered SD11 had a stash of rotten food (from Wednesday, last week) and dirty dishes in her room. Just. Like. SD13. She's never done this before. Granted, the stuff was neatly arranged on a shelf in her closet (note to self to check under the bed) but OMG.

I took all that stuff up to the dining room table, then did the same with all the crap left in SD13s room. DH didn't even notice what I was doing (I walked by several times with dishes piled high) until he looks over and... "What....?"

Yesterday morning we were out of half and half AGAIN because SD13 uses it for her cereal sometimes (dh has told her not to but you all know that's meaningless), because she doesn't want to use the whole milk or she'll use it in her mac n cheese instead of milk.

The milk container was left empty in fridge and no note to get more was on list, everyone knows my rules. I don't mind getting things that are essential and no one makes assumptions about what I do.