Ugh, yes I know this is very petty, but it gets to the heart of something that creates conflict in our steplives - not being involved in decisions that affect us or even dont affect us in any discernable way.

I commented in a facebook group in response to a post someone made about things that bother us about BM making changes to the schedule at whim. It made me look at something I dont really like thinking about. Why does it bother me so much that Munchkin SD14 wants to change the schedule from Monday-Monday to Wed-Wed?

Well, I really hate pickups and drop offs for visitation.

Drop offs arent too bad, but lately each pickup involves drama of some kind and crying Munchkin all the way home.

Mondays. 

I get home but need to gas up my car before work the next day. I offer to pick up Munchkin SD14 since Im out and about anyway and DH who works as a mechanic is dead tired. Sounds easy, right? DH tells Munchkin Im on my way. Toxic Troll had told DH that Munchkin had been sick and thrown up previously. Munchkin insists shes ok, its just her period (Whaaaaat?)

Thanks all, for your tough-but-kind-and-very-truthful words. I had been entertaining the thoughts of marital counseling, but came to conclusion that you all are right. Start with me first. Then DH can either follow along or not.

As Jupiter and Saturn have converged, apparently Toxic Troll BM is going for her Mother of the Year award for 2020.

Last night, DH recieved a text from the Troll detailing yet another fight with Feral Forger. On and on about a chore liste given 5 days ago still not done, and then...drumroll...

How FF called TT a D!ck.

And TT, like the true Troll she is "looked her in the eye and slapped her". And then FF apologised for calling her mother a dk.

And her text (sort of priceless) to DH: "baby steps to her learning to respect".