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Violin-Gate & "I has a sadz"

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 11:19am

Well, I really hate pickups and drop offs for visitation.

Drop offs arent too bad, but lately each pickup involves drama of some kind and crying Munchkin all the way home.

Mondays. 

I get home but need to gas up my car before work the next day. I offer to pick up Munchkin SD14 since Im out and about anyway and DH who works as a mechanic is dead tired. Sounds easy, right? DH tells Munchkin Im on my way. Toxic Troll had told DH that Munchkin had been sick and thrown up previously. Munchkin insists shes ok, its just her period (Whaaaaat?)

I get a call as I am searching for the entrance to the ghetto-y apartment complex. Its Munchkin, sounding upset.

"my mom wants me to stay. Feral Forger is going out again and shes...sad. For some reason, I dont know why..."

I tell her "um Im almost there, and I have her check." Yes I am also delivering Toxic Troll Support check.

Munchkin : "oh ok, Ill be outside" (it was warm)

I call DH with this information, and he insists that I need to pick her up and bring her home. K. So I tell her that (cLove in the middle is not a good look for me). The entire way to gas station, sad, sniffles, and silence. 

I ask "Ummmmm so.....can I ask.....whats up?"

The flood gates open, and shes shouting (but a quiet shout) "My mom is angry with me that I told dad about my sister going out, because she wants me to stay with her. She made dinner and now I am not eating it. She wants me to play violin but Im too shy. When she gets angry, she touches my stuff and does things to my stuff". Im remembering the stories of our beautiful 68 galaxy getting carved up in her anger when DH was trying to separate.

Then the tears.

Then the story of the violin. "She is mad that I dont play the violin around her, but shes always there so I dont get to practice, and they laugh at me when I make a mistake"

ME: "who laughs at you? Your classmates?" 

Munchkin: long pause...."my mom and feral forger both laugh at me when I make a mistake, so I dont want to play in front of anyone, she can listen to my homework, if she wants to hear me play, but she just forces me to play and gets mad if I dont...." Her mother bought her this violin. This was one of the classes she was failing becuase she was too shy to record herself.

Egads, folks, I just so wanted to go back and give that Toxic Troll some of her own medicine. 

What did I do with the check you might be wondering? I folded into a tiny square and gave it to munchkin to give to mother. I wanted to spit on it after hearing about violin-gate.

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caninelover's picture

Submitted by caninelover on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 11:55am

I really feel for poor Munchkin.  What a hostile home environment with both TT and FF there.

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 11:58am

I just wonder if Munchkin is telling the truth. Her sister and mother are sociapathic liars. I am always watching to see if she has "caught" their sickness.

But if its true.....it makes me mad...and I feel powerless.

Im so freaking jaded.

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Submitted by JRI on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 12:03pm

I was wondering how things were going.  The drama never stops over there.  Did Munchkin bring her violin to your house?.  

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 12:13pm

The drama is never ending. Especiall after TT trolled me on facebook.

Yes, she has to do her recordings for assignments, and since DH and I are at work all day she has plenty of alone space to do it without being self-concious.

But her mother gets mad if she keeps it here. She feels "cheated". Whatever, grow up Toxic Troll!

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Submitted by tog redux on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 12:40pm

If I could go back again, I'd take everything SS ever said to me about BM's home with a grain of salt. But all you can do anyway is say, "That sounds tough - but you are a smart girl, I know you will figure it out."

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:15pm

Feeling mad and then feeling irritated. Not only that, but I know that Munchkin tells her mother things too (at least she did) that are negative about our house.

We cant win. I just told her "wow that really sucks".

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 5:15pm

Tomorrow hopefully she will have "decompressed", because she always get in the downest of moods when this happens.

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Submitted by halo1998 on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:06pm

My DD is a symphony level flute player..ie that kid is really good.  Her current teacher used to be the principle flutist in our large city symphony orchestra.  Let me tell you...SHE STILL MAKES MISTAKES. That is why it's called "practice".   Even professionals practice for hours and still will make mistakes.

I would tell Munchkin, unless TT and FF are professional level players...to tell them to stuff it.  and or hand it to them tell them to start playing. 

SMH....because that is awful...we may joke every once in awhile with DD.....when clinker comes out.  Even she laughs...but we would never make fun of her.  Music is hard for most people and takes practice to master.

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:16pm

She tells me that shes just really shy.

I will recomend. But who knows what is REALLY happening.

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:17pm

It boggles my mind that your DH can't even be bothered to pick up his own kid or drop of his CS. I know I have said it before, but I will say it again, Munchkin is very fortunate to have you in her life. The two failed DNA cesspools who spawned her can go rot!

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:22pm

I offered because I was driving to gas station anyway. And then he threw that in. It actually ended up ok, because she wanted a "favor" from him that he had to say no to...and was there for munchkin to release her emotions...

He typically will do this himself.

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Submitted by Catmom024 on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 1:47pm

Geez.  Why am I worried that violin is going to end up smashed to pieces/"accidentally" stepped on or pawned by TT or FF.

Do they still have the husky dog?

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 5:12pm

for schoolword.

yes, still have the husky dog. She still poos and pees inside. mange has been treated.

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Submitted by MissK03 on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 2:10pm

Does TT try to keep munchkin on DHs nights or is this new? 
 

What does DH say to munchkin? She shouldn't be feeling shy in front of TT and FF even though they both are no good.
 

Could it be she just doesn't actually want to play the instrument and using that as an excuse? SD wanted to play the flute in 4th grade... yeah that lasted about a week and she was over it. Not her thing. 

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 01/19/2021 - 5:13pm

Occasionally. When she is feeling "sadz" or alone or something...