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Are We Wrong?
If you have followed my story, you know that DH and BM lived within 100 miles of each other for 5 years. DH saw SS every Sunday and would attend doctor appointments and school functions throughout the week as able, driving the hour and a half each way to attend. BM had a nasty trick of telling DH about appointments and events day of, expecting him to drop everything to attend, and making him out to be a deadbeat if he couldn't. DH could rarely attend due to the short notice and BM reminds him of his "voluntary absenteeism" often.
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SS12 Went Home
We wrapped up our visit with SS12 yesterday. He said he had an amazing 3 weeks and felt much more connected than previous visits. He said he got to experience our normal routine like taking DD to gymnastics, us working normally, and going with DH to golf league, which he normally doesn't get to experience when he is only here for a week or two. He also said he got to see more people more frequently, than just seeing them once. DH and I wrapped up some photos from our visit and sent them back in SS' bag with a note saying how much fun we had and how much we love him.
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Update on SS12 Visit
We are nearing the end of SS12's visit for summer. He goes home on Sunday.
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More Phone Calls Shenanigans
SS12 had his first call with TweedleDee & TweedleDumb (BM and GF) tonight since arriving on Sunday for 3 weeks. We are currently on vacation with SS12 in Florida, spending a few days at Disney and a few at a family member's house.
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Our First Week With SS12 Has Ended
BM picked up SS12 today. She was wearing a sweatshirt that said "wifey" on it, almost like she is trying to remind us all that she is married to GF. She was decent to DD2 and told us that DD is talking a lot more, which is true. After 5 years of promising, BM still isn't taking SS to Canada after a pick-up. We live an hour from the border. But she is driving an hour in the opposite direction of home to take SS to her old college stomping grounds... again for the millionth time. I am starting to think Canada won't happen like many other promised things in SS' life.
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SS12 Arrives Today
SS12 arrives today for his first visit of summer break. He will be here for a week, then return to BM for a week, then return here for 3 weeks. DH is completing the 8 hour roundtrip drive as we speak to pick him up.
All has been mostly quiet on the BM front. She did rush SS to the doctor over a bug bite two weeks ago, concerned he had Lymes Disease (again hypochondriac). Nope, it was nothing more than a mosquito bite. Otherwise, just a few school updates here and there. I'm grateful that nothing earth shattering occurred between scheduling our visit and now.
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BM FINALLY GAVE US SUMMER DATES
BM FINALLY GAVE US SUMMER DATES FOR SS12'S SUMMER VISIT AND IT IS SOOO GOOD! Normally, we have 2 two week blocks, with BM having 2 weeks in the middle. We have asked for more consecutive time for the last 5 years and BM has always refused, stating that SS was "uncomfortable."
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A Little Shocked By SS12
DH FaceTimed with SS12 tonight for our usual twice weekly call. SS is in the middle of state standardized testing in school and told DH he just wrapped up English last week. DH asked SS what the English portion entailed. SS explained that there was reading, comprehension, and a writing prompt about whether class participation should count toward a student' grade. DH asked SS where he stood on that topic. SS said he felt it shouldn't and outlined his reasons.
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Still No Summer Dates
If you've followed along with my story, you know SS12 comes for a total of 4 weeks in the summer. It is supposed to be in 2 two week blocks but per our stupid CO, BM can break that down into whatever increments is needed for "sport related conflicts" as long as we maintain 4 weeks/30 days total. Oh and the CO gives BM up to one week before SS is scheduled to arrive (day after the last day of school) to make any changes.
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Toxic MIL
DH's Mom (My MIL) is toxic. She reminds us exactly of BM. DH doesn't have a relationship with her outside of seeing her at extended family functions and a text on birthdays/Christmas. MIL constantly blames me for this, instead of acknowledging how her own behavior led to this type of relationship.
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