Our long weekend visit with SS10 ended today. Overall, it was a pleasant visit, but he didn't engage much. He had his head buried in video games for most of the visit. The only time he really spoke was meal times or after we took the video games away, and even then, all he wanted to talk about was BM, GF, and/or the trips they all have planned. SS10 wasn't rude in any way, just quiet. He did play with DD while DH and I did chores or worked, which was nice to see. He does seem to like DD.

So a few weeks ago, DH messaged BM asking if we could pick SS up for President's Weekend visitation at noon instead of 3pm on Friday and then change BM's pickup time to noon instead of 3pm on Monday, because we were going to FIL's house for the weekend and the later pick up time would make the extra distance harder. BM agreed to the change in time also informing DH that she would be in FIL's town (also BM's parent's town) that Monday and pulling SS out of school to stay there until Thursday.

We are scheduled to have SS for President's Day weekend in February. Our CO enforces that DH pick SS up in BM's state at 3pm on Friday and BM will pick up SS from us at 3pm on Monday. The 3pm pick up allows SS to attend school on Friday. 

DH took this week off to spend time with SS and DD. I did not take time off (I work 100% remote), but I have today off for New Years. DH informed me on WEDNESDAY that he works a half day today, from the office an hour away not remote. It is kind of a big item to fail to communicate, especially when no plans were made for SS. 

After SS' toxic phone call with BM last night, I told DH that I was not comfortable being home alone with him. DH's response was "I told SS he needs to be on his best behavior and he is pretty self sufficient - he can get his own breakfast and stuff."