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Exactly What I Thought Would Happen Happened - SEEING RED

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 03/22/2024 - 6:06pm

DH received the dreaded football email from BM tonight. Exactly what I said a few blog posts ago would happen, happened. In her email, BM outlined that she has spoken with the coach and other parents with kids who have played junior high football and there will likely be optional Sunday practices. She highlighted that while they are optional, they will likely impact SS' position and team (A team versus B team) based on his "commitment" to football during those optional practices.

O/T: Toxic Job

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 03/21/2024 - 4:56pm

I posted a few weeks ago about my toxic job. As background, I loved my job until last Fall. I thought I was going to stay there for years. I had a great relationship with my manager, had a great relationship with my team, and felt content in the day-to-day. Well, I was "promoted" last September. I use air quotes because it was only a $1,500 raise, but double the workload was added to my plate. I didn't want this promotion, but couldn't I turn it down without losing my job. It was a "company restructuring effort."

See A Fight Coming This Summer

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 03/14/2024 - 7:54pm

SS12 has been playing football since he was 5. BM made this her hill to die on to prevent additional long distance visitation, citing that SS couldn't miss football in the summer to be with DH. The courts agreed. So, per our CO, we are entitled to 4 weeks of summer visitation, which is SUPPOSED to be exercised in two 2 week blocks, but the CO gives BM the power to break it up, if it interferes with sports. The CO states that DH HAS to accommodate it, no choice. So unfortunately, BM has all the power to dictate our summer visitation and we essentially have to agree. It sucks.

In A Funk

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 03/09/2024 - 6:57pm

I had a dream about BM and GF last night. They came to pick SS up and things got heated. I basically told them both everything I've been holding in for the last 10 years. These dreams happen maybe a few times a year, and I think it's my subconscious trying to vent all the anger and resentment I feel about my steplife situation. Since I can't really vent it aloud, it vents in my dreams. 

Visit with SS11.5

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sun, 02/18/2024 - 8:11pm

As mentioned in my previous blogs, SS11.5 came to visit for the long President's weekend. We were planning on taking SS11.5 and DD2 to visit DH's family across the state. Well, I came down with the flu and was DYING on Thursday. I had the full aches/chills, high 102/103 fever, congestion, etc. When DH picked SS up on Friday, I told DH to take the kids and go for the weekend and I would stay home and rest, sleep, and recover. It seems like SS has enjoyed his visit with DH, DD and DH's family. DH has kept me in the loop via FaceTime. I have slept, ate, slept, taken meds, and slept.

BM Suddenly Being Nice

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 02/10/2024 - 7:30pm

I have been on Steptalk for several years now. I found this site during our high conflict custody battle in 2019 and have been here ever since, across 2 different accounts. If you have followed my story, you would know that BM has always been super high conflict. She has always refused DH any additional time with SS, acts like DH isn't an actual parent, always claimed that SS wasn't comfortable to be with DH, played games of chase to hurt DH, etc.

Visit With SS11.5 Almost Over

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 12/28/2023 - 4:34pm

Our half of Christmas break with SS11.5 is almost over. It has been a pleasant visit overall. He has been polite, said "please" and "thank you," has helped with DD2, and has helped around the house. The good news is that SS' smartwatch has stayed in the same spot since the first day he arrived. He hasn't touched it and it has stayed turned off. DH and I are thankful it wasn't an issue this visit. It didn't stop BM from having frequent communication though. DH picked SS up last Friday, BM called Monday (Christmas), she is calling again tonight, then she picks SS up on Saturday.

SS11.5 Arrived

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 12/23/2023 - 9:39pm

SS11.5 arrived yesterday. He has been a perfect angel and settled back into the household with little issue, despite being away for 5 months. He has helped with chores, been wonderful with DD, and not made a fuss about anything. 

It's Been A Minute

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Thu, 12/21/2023 - 7:27am

All has been quiet on the BM/SS11.5 front. SS got his braces last month and DH has fulfilled the initial portion of the financial obligation for that. We will continue to pay our portion monthly for the next 18 months of treatment. You could tell BM was extra nervous about getting her money, despite that we have never not paid, because she sent several emails and the reimbursement form was riddled with notes from her.

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