SO and I have been doing some thinking about our wedding plans for next summer.  The only 'family' event we are having is a reception in the mid-west near Grandma McBratFace as she is too old to travel now.

I had a dream last night.  

We were at our reception and we had two types of food - some yummy spicy ethnic food from my culture and the other side had some standard American fare except all the side dishes were vegan.

Bratty and SO did talk on the phone Saturday.  He asked Bratty about the now cancelled Grandma visit.  Bratty said she was confused as she applied to that school in the mid west to be around Grandma and now it seems like Grandma may not want that.  Otherwise SO said she seemed disappointed but not upset.  

So where is Bratty today?  

After Bratty and SO resumed their regular phone calls and conversations, Bratty shared with SO that she had applied to be an egg donor/surrogate parent.  She learned she could earn money this way and wanted to do so before getting a hysterectomy later due to her self-diagnosed endometriosis.  SO dutifully pulled some old childhood photos of Bratty as a young girl for Bratty’s donor application and reminisced on what a cute little girl she had been.  I think he feels some loss with her currently not identifying as a girl anymore.

Over the next few weeks I took a break while Bratty and SO continued with weekly appointments.  The therapist coached Bratty on a plan to move out, which would really be SO moving her stuff out.  SO sent her pictures of her stuff and she went through and marked off what to keep (we had said all along that she could keep a couple of boxes of important stuff with us) and what to get rid of.  I saw SO going through her stuff, making piles of keep/donate/trash.  The room eventually cleared out and everything left was put into two boxes.  Bratty texted and asked if she could keep one of her thre