SS25 (Luke Skywalker) is still living with BM (Darth Vader). For a long time after their divorce, Luke would not speak to SO due to PAS. However, a couple of years ago Luke reached out and they have been meeting for lunch about once every couple of months. A couple of months ago SO broke the news to Luke that he was getting re-married and that he would like Luke to consider coming to the wedding next summer.
Or a communal house, to be more precise. 12 people living in a 5 bedroom house and 'sharing resources' whatever that means.
She texted SO last week during our vacation that she was at a clinic waiting on a test. We were visiting Grandma McBratFace (who already cancelled one Bratty visit a couple of months ago) and you could hear the anxiety creep into her voice when she found out. Bratty had rescheduled her visit for August so Grandma was understandably concerned. I think she would have cancelled again except this time Bratty got the hint and cancelled herself so Grandma is safe once again.
We had SO's family zoom call yesterday, and towards the end Bratty mentions to Grandma that she'll email her some flight information about her visit.
SO filled me in on some of his dinner conversation with Bratty.
Sunday morning, SO wakes up and reads a text from Bratty that came in at 5 am. Bratty texted that she had a flat tire or tires on the way to visit her friends. She asked SO to look up the number for Verizon because her phone wasn't getting data (but did have voice/text service). SO texted her the number and waited for updates.
So Bratty texted SO yesterday that for her visit (someday next week - still no firm dates LOL) she found a 'friend' who's letting her couchsurf, so she doesn't need to stay with us (read: take your rules and stuff them caninelover). I'm so relieved and actually happy that Bratty did not persist with silent treatment to SO and simply found a different way to accomplish her goal. That's actually very good for her and progress towards more self-reliance.
So at the start of the holiday weekend Bratty texted SO to ask to stay 'one night sometime in July'. We had previously set rules in therapy last year for Bratty's visits (reasonable notice, specific dates, and adhere to the schedule). SO texted her back and let her know per our agreement in therapy we needed specific dates.
Bratty went silent all weeked as she does when she doesn't get her way.
This morning she finally responded to SO's text and said she still wasn't sure about dates and was looking into alternative stay options. YES!
So....to kick off our nice holiday weekend Bratty texts SO and asks if she can visit sometime in July for one night. Well technically she doesn't want to visit us, she wants to visit her GF who is nearby recovering from surgery, and another college friend who will randomly be in our area for one day.
Bratty (who has a history of making ridiculous plans) thinks she will drive 6 hours, visit 2 people stay one night, and then return the next day.
In addition to Bratty's ongoing caretaking of her uncles, she is now in a panic over her planned return to school in the fall for post bacc 2.0.
She was definitely accepted to a program in the mid-west but decided against that one when Grandma McBratFace kicked Bratty to the curb for her proposed summer visit.
She had applied to programs in NorCal and I was told 'she was accepted to a bunch' but apparently it may be only one that she applied to, and she's still waiting to hear back from them. Apparently she may not hear until August.