Last Fall DH, without discussing it with me first, had SS16 try out for basketball. While I know, being the lowly piece of crap step mom, I had no veto power, at the very least I expected to be informed of the costs, logistics, etc.. Nope. Not one discussion was had about any of this. Or what the expectations were for me.

Since then, there have been multiple times where, at the last minute, I am being told SS16 needs a ride - we are talking from the morning of, to mere hours before - and I am left scrambling to try to accommodate him or having to tell him no.

Oh, and let me also tell you that SS16 isn't the one informing me he needs a ride - DH is.

Yes, SS16 will call or text DH daily about needing a ride. Sometimes it is while I am here, in the same house as he is - literally in the next room working. I work from home 99% of the time - DH has an odd shift that is more of an in between 1st & 2nd shift, so I am here when the kids get home from school.

I have sat SS16 & DH down on multiple occasions and told both of them to do 2 things each week if the expectation is for me to help with transportation:

1. Write down your schedule and times
2. At the very least, see if BM can do one day per week to help (we have full custody, it's the least she can do)

Have they held up their end of the deal? Nope.

I have asked multiple times and SS16 refuses to so much as text me his schedule and when I tell both of them "hey, this week for sure I can't do this day or that day," it gets, I guess, ignored or not taken seriously, because guess who gets called and asked for a ride?

See I have my own daughter and she has a sport in the evenings as well - a sport that I coach, so it's just not possible for me to be at SS16's beck and call. I can sometimes move things around, but some days that's not the case and schedules conflict. I also have a night where I do something for myself (GOD forbid, I know).

DH tells me bullshit like "SS16 is afraid to text you for a ride because he thinks you will get mad." Really? Why would he think this when I have asked him to communicate his schedule with me so I can plan? Sounds like a cop out excuse. Or maybe it's because he waits until the last freaking minute and well, I do get pissed because it puts me on the spot, creates stress and gets his dad pissed because he's at work and has to deal with this crap constantly.

I have even been told to look at the schedule we have printed out. Yes, this idea sounds simple in theory - but you don't live in my house, nor have you seen the schedule. First of all, one never knows where the schedule is. I have tried putting it on the refrigerator and that doesn't work. The Neanderthals that I live with knock it off, step all over it and lord knows where it ends up. Or it ends up in some pile of crap that is either DH's or SS16 and I'm not rummaging thru it to find it. Not my problem. Second, the schedule is in some code that I'm not familiar with - the teams, schools are all abbreviated and half the time it's wrong or changes. So forget it.

I have finally had enough and told them the only way I am helping him is on my terms - PERIOD. I hate to be a bitch, but I'm sick of everyone being pissed off at me over something that isn't my damn fault.