So, BF and I had a great weekend to ourselves, a great time really. LOTS of loving, we did gardening, went out...had a marathon lol all around just refreshing as it always is.

So Sunday my boys come back as usual-still a good evening, we all watched a movie together, had dinner, etc.

THEN MONDAY comes crashing in-he finds out SD is at his parents house AGAIN, because BM has to go sign papers for the house she just bought (apparently-finally, after 4 months of moving the closing date)... AND surprise surprise she's staying two weeks!!! AGAIN..she just STAYED friggin two weeks a week ago lol. Of course he'll feel bad and go get her (him and his brother live together) and bring her w/him or stay there at his parents during that time. And typically HALF of that time, or evenings or wknds they come to see me and the boys so SD can not be BORED over there since there are no kids to abuse and bully I guess.

First of all what kind of cold whore does this during the time they (her and sd) are getting their first house together-the kid has been bounced from home to home, school to school, living w/others, she's almost 11 and is SO friggin happy that she's going to have her own space ( I feel awfull about this) so FINALLY get's her own place and what...bitch is going to make her wait two weeks to come to the house, help decorate, move, sleep in her own room, etc?? REALLY-WHO really does that?

And then this- for a dad with EOW supposedly-since I've been with him it's been 1/3 or more of custodial time, weeks at a time in summer, during winter breaks, snow days (dropped off 3 days prior just in case it gets snowed in), holidays, weekends, extra weekends, extra random days at her convenience. During Nov/Dec it was almost 1 1/2months each time. WELL I'll say-I'm DONE picking up other people's slack for an agreement I never made for a kid that isn't mine, when I'm NOT married and the kid is likely not even his. F THAT!

I have NEVER met a BM that has as many breaks and gets her way as much as she does when throwing her kid around at others, friends, MY bf's family, and him left and right whenever she wants. If her and SD agree to it- it's written in stone. And then like I said-they ALL know that a lot of that time is spent at my place so in essence I'm already being "groomed" to accept that I will be shit on depending on what THEY have planned for the year.

NOW-NONE Of this is EVER agree to by him, bm does not have his number-when she did even if he said NO to a schedule she'd go aroudn him and his parents would say yes-so he figured hell w/it let them deal w/it (thinking they'd get tired of it, apparently that isn't working).

I plan to make it very uncomfortable for them all this time around and from here on out on ANY unscheduled time, there will be NONE of my house/space the times that occurrs

-So NO-these two weeks I will NOT be having SD over at my house when bf visits unless it's the regulary scheduled wknd he has her and we decide to do something together. If bm, sd and gparents want to make their own plans, fine-but they aren't including my household- thinking I will pick up that bm's bitch slack they have another thing coming, because I won't.

Imagine how nice for BM-she doesn't have to pay for summer camp at ALL this summer, AND gets the child support AND doesn't have the kid w/her four of those weeks.

And then I on the other hand-have TWO kids to support that are with me the whole summer full time-AND paying for summer camp x 2 which is ridiculous expensive.

SO HELL to the no-I'm tired of it being unfair and I will not pick up someone elses slack. I have enough w/my own-let her stay at home bored w/grandparents or her dad. I have no reason to feed her, cook for an extra mouth, have her play dress up w/my clothes, listen to her talk nonstop, entertain her at my house, have her in my space, here the arguments about the tv, her crazy energy riling everyone up, the boys getting possibly bullied and if not they will feed of her hyper ass and I have to be stressed w/calming them down during weeknights.

BF can deal with it-his parents can, and SD can stay w/her dad or grandparents BORED-my house, my dime, my space, I'm not picking up their shit slack-I have enough of my own and I WILL not do it again. The more I allow myself to be shit on by their arrangements the worse it will be.

After my inital shock of "WTF she's over there AGAIn-WHAT? TWO WEEKS, AGAIN???? He had hinted at coming over just him for dinner..but then said he felt bad because he would be spending time w/my boys and not her...I promptly told him we'd take a rain check and I wanted a chill evening to myself-he understood.

NOW-for TODAY-I will be having the uncomfortable conversation above with him. I will SHOW THEM how shitty these unscheduled visits can be for them. It is not fair that I bust my ass working, paying child care when I need it, support two kids, and only get EOW_-IF that, ONE week in 7 years I got from ex to take the kids on vacation. And this bitch gets it all, anytime she wants-but again-since we met a lot of that time IS spent w/me-so her getting her way is added burden for ME, who ALREADY do ten times more then her and never throw my kids around at the world to raise. And it's damn hard-I won't do it for her.

SO NO-I didn't sign up for that and I will not agree to their imposing schedules/days/vacation weeks. They agree, they handle it.