Ok at risk of losing it and smashing the screen everytime I see these trolls names on the board lol-I must ask if anybody else has noticed the same thing.

There are 3 things that seem to generate a plethora of answers/debate/arguing. Normally coming from people that dont' understand the concept of 'one happy family' really doens't exist in a step-situation and then the accusations start flying and judgment. Hundreds of angry posts follow:

1. Photographs-anything related to photos, include skids, not, just couple, just the family, on and on...it's insane

2. Vacations- take skids, not take skids, how horrible we are for not taking skids and taking our bios

3. Clothing- who provides what to whom, who buys what, who doesn't return shit, who needs to and doesn't, etc etc on and on

Oh....I forgot 4th- whether to include kids in the wedding or not.

What is it about these issues that cause such uproar/controversy/anger/judgment.

It is just the same troll posters that have issues w/these things specificalyl and over the years have created all this drama, or do we all feel very strongly about these things so we bring them up ad-naseum?

Heres' my take-I don't do professional photos (nor do I bash those that do). Never have even w/my kiddos-I like normal snap shots. I have pics with just him and me and my bios. I have some of him/sd...I have pics of him and just my boys, I have pics of sd and my bios. I do NOT have pics of me and sd or all 5 of us, or just me and all skids.

I don't think it's intentional just that I'm normally the one snapping pictures. And I really could care less what others think.

Vacations-I've gone camping with sd and my kids and it went SORT OF ok. Though she did act a fool w/the competitive shit a few times. She heard me mention a beach vacation last year, I have not mentioned it again-but I have decided that I will be taking JUST my bios this year. If my bf wants to join us, fine but I"m not doing a 'family vacation'-we aren't married or engaged and she goes on multiple trips with her mother and family.

My kids and I haven't had an alone vacation in a few years and we deserve a good time w/out any fighting, competing, over crowded. Bf understands-I still don't know if he's even coming or not-but i'm going to have a good time regardless.

Clothing: I pack the boys bag, on ocassion I ask them to do it- but I normally manage it, after all I wanted the divorce and put the inconvenience on my sons of two places and transporting clothign and items and shifting around, they didn't ask for this-at minimum i should make it painless and own up to that decision and be responsible for it. My ex sends back clothes (unwashed-I think it's fine he's only there w/them 2 days). Sometimes he leaves things at his house. I dont' really pitch a fit unless it's something like an mp3 or game -I do ask him to double check that everything is packed-and IMO kids forget stuff and since we divorced we should be responsible to double check these things. I don't ask he buy stuff at his house, kids like their clothes and take back/forth. He has undies/socks there but I always send enough for the wknd-hence why I have to keep replacing it lol

SD packs her own bag to go to her dads, but that's because her mom has her well trained to do everything an adult kid would do since she was 5 and is too lazy to help her do shit. BUT it's made for a responsible girl. Sometimes she leaves stuff at my bfs and I get on him...hon, check the back seat of the car, she does everything else you can do a final check to ensure she has everything for going back to her moms. He agrees with me.

So there. Those are my thoughts.