A whole new kind of BULLSHIT
I don't even know where to start. This weekend was completely effing abysmal.
I'll try yo be a brief as possible. SS17 is a pothead. He's not paying for his own car ins like agreed and he's driving around in a vehicle that is registered to my DH. The ins. policy is mine. I friggin hate this kid, he's a liar and a sneak and I want him off my ins. policy.
I wrote about this a week or so ago. Well, I didn't say anything to my DH about it because I really didn't want to ruffle feathers. It was my understanding that he was going to give SS a drug test this weekend and take it from there. So, I decided I'd wait to see what the test revealed and if he failed, I'd have my say.
Well, not only did SS17 FAIL, my DH found pot in the car that is registered to my DH and insured by yours truly. Now I speak up. My DH thinks I'm being unfair in asking him to abandon his son!!! Can you friggin believe I'm the bad guy because HIS son is a pothead? WTF?
My DH says he'll just have to transfer the car title into SS's name to avoid upsetting me. Yeah that's ONE way...how about growing a pair of balls you enabling ass and CUT HIM OFF?
I'm so fuming angry I am seeing red. I think my marriage will not survive this all because of this snot nosed, punk ass brat! I FUCKING HATE HIM!!!!!!!
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I told him all of this and he
I told him all of this and he tunes me out. His son is an addict. Period. And DH just keeps blowing smoke up his own ass and ignores it. Am I the only one who sees the truth???
And I forgot to mention that
And I forgot to mention that LAST weekend on BM's weekend, SS17 had a party in their house. She never told DH about it and didn't punish SS17 in any way. He got away Scot free. Where the hell was she? WHen my DH asked SS about a party he flat out LIED and said it would be too ballsy to have a party...no way he said. Did I say how much I hate this kid???? UGH :sick:
This kid is not responsible
This kid is not responsible enough nor respectful enough to be driving a vehicle, much less one that is in someone's name other than his own. So, until he is old enough to own a car and can pay his own insurance, no driving.
If your DH does not agree and refuses to comply, make sure your insurance policy is more than adequate.
I have NEVER asked my DH to
I have NEVER asked my DH to give up on or abandon his kids. For some reason he equated enforcing serious consequences for serious infractions as "abandoning" his son. Totally overdramatic.
Pot from yester year was VERY different than the pot today. He's flunking out of school, barely able to form a correct sentence, throwing parties at BMs house...this should be curtailed. Not my kid so I try to keep my mouth shut as much as possible...UNTIL it affects me and it does.
Now I am sick to my stomach and vomiting because I feel in my heart of hearts that my DH will throw away our marriage because he wants to be pals with his son...
Sorry if you thought I was
Sorry if you thought I was upset with your question. NEVER was capitalized for my benefit and not directed at you or anyone else for that matter. I'm just so frustrated that he thinks being a parent is abandoning his kids. SS doesn't have his vehicle any more and he will be off the ins as soon as my agent returns my call. So thanks for calling me out on what I'm doing wrong and having my back. It's handled.
As far as pot not being a really big deal and that it's no different than decades ago...I completely, 100% disagree with you. The THC levels are more than 30 times higher today (no pun intended). At his age, for his developing brain and emotional maturity, that is most certainly a big deal. Not getting caught isn't the idea, here. How about not doing it at all, especially when you promised not to do it any more. What about integrity and being a "man" of your word? How can anyone trust a person who lies and is sneaky? This is so much more than about how to not get caught!
I have no idea what he pays for or where he gets it. He works 15+ hrs a week making $9 an hour and doesn't have a dime to his name. Some goes for gas money, he's not paying for his ins....so how much is left over for weed? Over $400-$500 each month. I'd say that would buy some pretty good shit, wouldn't you?
Thanks. I hope so, too.
Thanks. I hope so, too. Maybe he will turn out ok, but turning the other way and allowing him to drive high is wrong. Period. It puts everyone else on the road with him in danger. Not right.
WHy haven't you taken him off
WHy haven't you taken him off yet?? There is NO EXCUSE for YOUR behavior on that
I don't think it would be a good idea to take him off of your insurance unless your DH puts his foot down about his son not driving the car.
In my area I think insurance
In my area I think insurance must be handled differently. Because my immediate response to this is: Why should she be on the hook for his kid - or her own, if that were the case? He would then be an uninsured driver... how is that her problem?
Not intended to be rude, genuinely not getting it!
In my state, you are required
In my state, you are required to name all eligible drivers in your household who may have access to any of your vehicles on a regular basis. A minor cannot hold an insurance policy of their own because it is a contract. Only adults can enter into a contract.
When I married DH, I just added him to my already existing ins plan (as the law says I have to name all licensed drivers with access to my vehicles). It wasn't a big deal...at the time. DH put SS on the policy as required by law and so here we are...
Does that help?
Also, if SS drives the car
Also, if SS drives the car and has an accident, I believe the registered owner of the car can be sued. Unless reported stolen, which I doubt the DH would do.
DH wouldn't report it stolen,
DH wouldn't report it stolen, but I would. I just wrote down the license plate and VIN this morning for just such an event. His vehicle is parked here....20+ miles away from where he lives with his useless, ever absent BM. I do not put it past him to get his spare key and come down in in the dark of night and take it. I can even imagine BM driving him down herself! She's actually threatened to do that. I almost hope SS does take the truck....provided no one gets hurt.
Oh absolutely. The last
Oh absolutely. The last thing we need is for him to drive UN-insured. He needs to lose lose the vehicle. Period.
Thanks so much! I really
Thanks so much! I really need hugs, virtual or otherwise. I KNOW this is so wrong. My DH is in HUGE denial. It's breaking my heart to see him behave like this, to not see what his son is doing and him thinking it's no big deal. It is vary big deal! Why am I, just the step mom, the only one who seems to give a shit about a kid that I don't even like? What the heck is wrong with this picture?
Thanks again for the support. My friends and family just don't understand....
I asked DH why does he trust
I asked DH why does he trust someone who is so untrustworthy and deceptive? Why does he keep giving him chance after chance only to screw up yet again? He didn't answer me. Then I said "Do you trust him or do you WANT to trust him?" That got him thinking...I think.
This is about DH realizing that his kid is a piece of shit and that HE and BM are directly responsible for the way he has turned out - so far. I'm sure it difficult to admit you effed up royally, you continue to eff up royally and your kid is a complete asshole. Tough pill to swallow. Ugh