I am panicked for the summer
My SS17 is a lazy, failing out of school, disrespectful, know it all pothead. His is just awful to his mom and his dad (mostly their own fault because they allow it). And of course, he's awful to me...that goes without saying.
Anyway after a horrible school year and many infractions that go unpunished his BM has had enough and is begging my DH to have my SS17 move here for the summer....ummmm HELL NO!!
I have a DD16 and a DS14 and neither of them want him here. I'm not sending all freaking summer with this smacked ass. I work from home, so I will be saddles with him all damned day.
My husband doesn't know that I know this dialogue between him and his ex has taken place. I don't even know if he'll bring it up. If he does, I don't know what to say. I CLEARLY don't want SS17 here. He is my DH's son so I don't want to hurt my DH. I also have my own kids to think about...and then there's me! There is just absolutely no way I will be able to do this. Not even for a week. I know my limits.
Anyone been there, done that? ALL advice welcome.
In the words of Nancy Reagan:
In the words of Nancy Reagan: Just say no.
And just say no sooner than
And just say no sooner than later. You want to give DH time to make alternate "child care" for his nearly grown man-child. Blech.
I have been there and I
I have been there and I DIDN'T do that. Didn't let the kid move in, that is. My husband wasn't thrilled but he got over it.
I would never have someone living with me who I can't trust, I don't care who it is.
He was having a texting
He was having a texting volley with his ex. He was sitting next to me on the couch and was reading his responses to her comments and I SAW her text regarding summer. He never read it aloud as he did her others...He just skipped right over it. I'm thinking because he already knows my stance and it isn't worth bringing it up at all....but if he does, I need to be prepared.