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Submitted by weekendwidow on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 9:26am

So after having it OUT with my DH regarding his pothead son, I think DH is finally starting to see what a disappointment his son is. He realizes that his son lies about anything and everything and that he can't be trusted...ever. I've been saying this for years, but then it was a bunch of shit and I was only attacking DH and his parenting style. Now DH and I have an appt w// a therapist who specializes in "step stuff" and right off the bat, she said...oh stepmoms have such a hard time. I hope this is a good fit. I feel a little more hopeful that help is on the way. Wish me luck!

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Submitted by Hanny on Fri, 05/30/2014 - 11:48am

Seeing it and admitting it are two different things. I am disappointed in my DD sometimes, but I don't admit it to SO, I keep it to myself. It is hard to admit that your children aren't what you'd hope they would be. My SO does the same with his girls, I know they disappoint him at times (it's life), but most of the time he doesn't say it. But if he does, I have learned to just listen and let him talk. I never comment, just listen. And if I show disappointment in my DD, he has learned to do the same. This has saved us lots of arguments! My mantra "not my business"

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Sat, 05/31/2014 - 7:13am

This morning he actually admitted it. He's so disappointed that his son is a loser. I mentally said...well, duh! But out loud I just said I'm sorry honey. I know this is hard...progress.