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Sweet vindication...

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Thu, 06/07/2012 - 2:35pm

"I can't get these kids to do anything. I think (SASS13) broke the lawn mower so that he wouldn't have to do the lawn. I can't get any help around the house."

That was DW on the phone this morning about her bios/my SKids. She's out of work right now due to an injury but is still ambulatory. The kids are on summer break...and don't do jack.

Here's where the vindication comes in - I worked a full-time job at home last summer while these cretins were home from school. I faced the same problems and periodically got called out for why some stuff wasn't done.

This may not be cheap...

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 8:55am

But I am trying one last thing because I KNOW I can't afford military school. SASS13 has reached a steady-state of being a full-on jerk. He hasn't done anything egregious (yet) but he's still bugging the hell out of SD14 and SS8, and taking things and lying, and yadda yadda yadda.

The cute "power struggle"...

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Mon, 05/21/2012 - 12:03pm

Last night SASS13 trots off to bed after saying "good night" to DW but nothing to me.

DW: " 'Good night TLS' " (expectantly waiting for SASS13 to parrot the same to me)

DW looks at me and shrugs her shoulders and I just reply "That's fine with me. I really don't care." I don't think she has come to terms with the fact that I don't care if he doesn't like me. If he wasn't around life would be much better and everyone in the house knows it.

I'm just biding my time. When he hits 18, he's out and I won't have him living under my roof ever again.

Loosely disengaged...and this kid has got to be an idiot

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Tue, 05/08/2012 - 12:25pm

I swear he's either a sociopath, an idiot or he's evil.

After going into my dresser last week to take something out of it and after all the lying, and talking back and just being an outright dick...he expected me to be a chaperon on his class trip to the state capital tomorrow. I did it for his older sister last year, but they are as different as night and day.

He's not academically stupid...so does that make him a sociopath?

What a gem...

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 9:21am

So yesterday morning was another morning of DW yelling at both SS's to do what they are supposed to do every. single. school. day. Get up. Get dressed. Make bed. Eat. Brush teeth. I'll break it down to time increments. 30 sec. 2 min. 3 min. 15 min. 2 min.

Ex had to make a scene

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Tue, 04/17/2012 - 1:54pm

So she shows up and pays her respects, all well and good right? But apparently not good enough. After she sits with my extended family for just long enough to make them feel uncomfortable, she decides to say "Well, time for me to go" only to stay longer.

She then proceeds to greet several other people, who I am certain wouldn't give a rat's ass if she were there. THEN, while my DW and I are actively talking with one of my cousins, comes over, interrupts that conversation and says goodbye to that cousin with a hug and a hug for my cousin's SO, who SHE HAS NEVER MET BEFORE.

Ex going to Niece's wake

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Tue, 04/10/2012 - 9:52am

And my sister (whose daughter passed) is ok with it. My mother thinks it's ok to pay respects, not make a spectacle of things and not "hang around" forever. I'm on that page. She knew my niece for 15 years of her 20 year life. I think it's appropriate for her to pay respects.

DW? Not in the least. She HATES the idea of her being there because of internal stuff between us and my ex. My contention is that the wake is not about us, but about her paying her respects to my niece and nothing more.

Thoughts?

The topic of disengaging...

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Thu, 03/22/2012 - 11:21am

So I dropped the bomb on DW the other night. I told her that my "Ben Kenobi" style of counseling SS13 doesn't change his behavior. No punishment that she's been willing to dish out changes behavior. Yelling at him doesn't change his behavior. There have been times that I've wanted to haul off and pound on him, but I don't hit - yet. So I told her that if he doesn't comply and won't take my guidance, I'm not going to be counseling him anymore. I'm not even going to try to provide helpful guidance.

More SS13 stuff - this kid is a real gem (long)

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Submitted by thelaststraw on Thu, 03/22/2012 - 10:49am

DW might finally be getting it. We, as parents, are responsible for raising children to be good people, not athletes. You might wonder why I say this...well, let me clue you in.

SS13 has called his mother a bitch to her face, left the house without permission, lied about where he was, consistently aggravated everyone in the house, taken things from other people, destroyed a trampoline with a knife, shouted that he hates his family and his life.

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