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Opinions Please: Was this worded correctly?

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 03/20/2013 - 1:10pm

This summer BM will have two weeks on/ off visitation with SS13 for the first time. The CO does not state what the dates will be, so DH and I decided to write BM a letter with the proposed schedule. Since there is a Restraining Order against her, and she likes to argue about EVERYTHING we thought this would be the simplest way to handle it. Our fear was that if we didn't make the first move she'd either a) blow it off or b) come up with something crazy.

What Does BM Mean: "I'll file a motion"

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 03/12/2013 - 10:36am

DH has a restraining order against BM. It allows her to call him on Mon and Wed night at 7 pm to speak with SS. All custody was finalized about 3 weeks ago in court.

Anyway, last night at about 7:30 DH came in from working in the yard as we just did the time change so he was taking advantage of the daylight. He went to where his cel phone was plugged in after a long stream of texts from BM asking where SS13 was, her final text read, "you keep breaking your order. I'll add it to my file. Do it three times and I'll file a motion."

Catching Flies with Honey: DH "Earns" Some Lovin

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 03/11/2013 - 2:23pm

We picked up SS13 from his EOWE visit with his BM. We have been working very dilligently with SS to get caught up on missing work, staying on top of his homework and doing extra work to help him raise his skill level to grade level. End of the trimeseter was this week and I got an email from his teacher stating that ALL missing work was completed.

This was great news. He had been stripped of most all priveleges: electronics, clubs at school, even karate. Parent teacher conferences are scheduled for this week.

SS Spent some time with MIL and Opened Up: More on BM

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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 03/09/2013 - 7:03pm

After SS13's last visit with his mother and the chaos that ensued as a result of her finding out that I am expecting, we asked DH's mom to spend some time with SS and talk with him. She's a real straight shooter and the kids love and respect her immensely.

So in addition to giving him a bit of hell about how he better love his new baby sister when she gets here, she also said, "If I find out you're not treating her well, things are going to change between me and you cuz that's my grandbaby!" LOL - love that woman!

My Vent: Uh Oh - I'm THAT bio mom

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 5:28pm

First of all, my ex and I have always worked together very well in regards to co-parenting. We each now have new spouses as of the last 6 months.

My ex just texted me stating that he was not going to bring BS9 to his practice today so that they can go celebrate new wife's bday in the city. This is after he alerted me earlier in the week that he also scheduled new wife's bday party at his home on Saturday so he won't be able to make it to DD12's first softball game and that I'll need to take her. (It's his weekend with the kids).

Wrote BM a Letter; she just LOVES to be told what to do

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 3:55pm

DH has primary custody of SS13 with BM having every other weekend. There are some changes to the standard schedule that we will be experiencing for the first time, based on current court orders: easter, mother's day, fathers' day, SS's school trip, summer with two weeks on/off.

Need Input: Thinking of Taking a Short Trip with My Bios before Baby Arrives

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 03/07/2013 - 11:32am

What are your thoughts on this? I'd like to try and take a trip about 2 hours from my home with my three kids ages 12, 10 and 9 about a month prior to my due date. Just a little beach trip to hang with them alone before the new baby comes.

SS13 will be with his mom and DH will be working. I'll be on maternity leave and kids will be on summer break.

I know my husband will worry about me being far away, pregnant and alone with the kids - just in case something happens. He'll miss me too, but I'm sure he's a big boy and will be able to handle himself for 2 days without me.

Funny How BM has to Work 2 hours away from her Home on the EXACT Night SS Wants Extra Time

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 03/05/2013 - 9:54pm

I could hear it in his voice when he was on the phone with her tonight. She was shooting him down.

Apparently, Ms. "I Only Work 5 Hours a Week" is working over night on the exact night SS13 is requesting to be picked up for an extra day's visit during his day off of school.

Funny how the story has already changed since last time he spoke with her just last night.

On Separating Finances - cross post

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 03/05/2013 - 3:30pm

What do you think is fair in this case?

DH brings home about 75% of what I bring home from my job ($2800 vs $3600). I also get another $1400 for child support for my three kids that we have about 65% of the time. SS is with us full time except he is every other weekend with his mom and she pays ZERO in child supprt.

I'd really like to separate things for many reasons, but I don't want to be unreasonable. Any ideas?

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