Warning: This is a Vent!

SS13 has been struggling with completing homework, writing down what's due, telling us the truth about it and then turning it in - all have been detailed in past blogs if you care to do some light reading.

One of his consequences for not completing his work was no clubs, no electronics, etc. Electronics have SLOWLY been reintroduced on a very minimal level.So, after about a month of SS working on getting his homework done, he finally gets a good weekly report stating that all homework was turned in the prior week. So SS alerts me this morning that his dad said he can go to his club after school today.

Now, I was slightly irritated because after one of these last blow ups, I told DH he could handle ALL of SS and his BS with Homework, dealing out and then removing consequences since his favorite thing to do seems to be to remove SS from any punishments he has received. I also told him he could write the checks for his $1K tuition bill each month, speak with the teachers each week, schedule the school conferences, make sure to review the hw each night and EVERYTHING else that I do for the damned kid.

So yes. I was irritated when DH decided to just pull him off of one of his punishments without consulting me. DH said, he thought he'd reward him for getting his work done the following week. Now, I'm not saying that I wouldn't have come up with the same conclusion, but... by not providing that uniform front, he is continuing to position me as the bad cop while he gets to be the fun dad that magically lifts all punishments.

I told him (in so many words) that he could do what he wants, and btw, he hadn't event picked up his son's report card yet, rescheduled the parent teacher conference that he missed while he had the flu last week, paid the tuition bill, etc - but keep on doing what you're doing Dad!

Uuuugh!