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Submitted by Sparklelady on Fri, 06/12/2015 - 10:17pm

DH wrote newly estranged SS16 and his mother a letter: http://www.steptalk.org/node/218407

It went down pretty much as we assumed, although instead of lashing out, BM played the "I didn't do anything wrong!" card. BM responded with "I'm trying to facilitate a relationship between you and SS!"

Gag. She's delusional. He responded something about her needing to look up the definition of facilitate, and that she has gotten exactly what she wanted. He told her to look up PAS and that there's a term for what she's done.

My secret delight :)

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Fri, 06/12/2015 - 7:05am

SS 16 is out.

He does not live here anymore. He will not live with us again. He will never drive anything I own. I will never have to live with his lies in my home again. If he fails, I don't have to watch it happen. If he knocks up anybody, I won't be embarrassed that he did so while he lived under my roof. And I will never have to be angry that my son has different rules again.

Go forth, SS16, be successful in all you do. Make good choices. Or not. You are not my monkey, and now I don't even have to keep a cage for you.

I think I need to apologize to BM and SS16

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Tue, 06/09/2015 - 7:35am

I'm pretty sure that all the problems we've ever had were caused by me and my interfering.

Nah, I'm just kidding!!! StepAside said we've gotten boring on here and we need new topics for opinions to flow.

Seriously though, my hubby wants to write a letter to BM and SS16 to express his dismay. He wants me to edit.

Let him send it? Advise him not to? Do I make it great or just proof read for spelling? I'm not sure it'll help. I've had one Stalker reach out with her opinion. Happy to hear others.

Thoughts?

If I had known

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Fri, 06/05/2015 - 6:12am

That forcing my husband to parent FROM DAY ONE would have made such a difference, I would have done... The result may have been the same - both of his kids left our house within weeks of him finally putting his foot down. So who knows, they may have left us years ago. But even that would have been okay. At least we would've saved years of needless grief.

Maybe our story will help someone new to the game.

Well that was... Horrible.

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Thu, 06/04/2015 - 7:45pm

My earlier blogs detail how we arrived here, but this is what transpired in the last 24 hours:
I had been told late Sunday night that SS16 had moved out of our home by one of my BS15's friends. I'm a little surprised by this news but will take the wait-and-see approach. I say nothing - not my monkey - just sit quietly.

C'mon! Does there really have to be a "Don't be a douche Part 3??"

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Sun, 05/31/2015 - 9:30pm

My son just said, "So SS16 has moved out?"
Huh?
BS15's friend - cousin of SS16's girlfriend, told him that SS16 broke up with his girlfriend AND that he has moved out of our home.

Sigh. This BM is something special. Wonder how all that went down? My hubby has no idea, he's on his way back from fishing, and they didn't bother telling him about this.

Don't be a douche Part 2

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Sun, 05/31/2015 - 10:32am

So. SS16 (SHOCK!) has been lying to his dad. He's been going to his girlfriend's (14) house and having her over to his mom's house with no parents home so they can have sex. Regularly. For months.

He "promised" his dad in February that he would never be alone at a house with her. (I know, who believes that promise, right? But my DH did, and he wouldn't hear any contradiction from me so it is what it is.)

Don't be a douche Part 1

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Sun, 05/31/2015 - 10:00am

SS16 found himself in a lot of trouble this weekend (separate blog on this) ironically just as my husband is leaving to go on a fishing trip with friends. I had nothing to do with his punishment or any of the conversations that went down with his mother - but the weekend was to go as follows: all his plans for Friday night were canceled, and he was grounded. Phone and laptop are taken away and given to me, he had to go to work Saturday morning as usual and then come straight back to our house.

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