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Christmas Eve manipulation & drama
The weeks leading up to Christmas BM has been uncharacteristially quiet, silly me thought that perhaps she was finally mellowing.In Sept she sent DH an e-mail regarding Christmas arrangements this year (they alternate Christmas every year so 1 year SS spends it with DH & following year with BM,whoever doesn't get SS for Christmas gets him for the Boxing Day).
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DH finally realises he is not SS 24 hour taxi services -miracles never ceases!
SS12 is very good at soccer -mainly thanks to DH encouragement and ferrying him to and from practice. When I first came on the scene DH would take SS to soccer practice on his days and weekends (no problems with this) but also on BM's weekends as she couldn't be bothered. So weekends when SS was not with us use to consist of Friday - pick up SS from school & take him to soccer practice then drop him to BM, Saturday mornings pick up from BM take SS to a game then return him to BM's.
O/T: update on the last few months
I haven't posted in a while as have had a lot to deal with in the last few months in addition to BM's rubbish & SS rudeness. So earlier this year DH & I were advised IVF was our only hope of starting a family so in April we geared up for IVF. We had been told previously that the suspected reason for DH severely low sperm count was most likely down to a hernia op he had in childhood.
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BM says infertility is natures way of preventing those who aren't meant to be parent's have children :jaw drop:
Background info :End of last year it was confirmed our only chance of having a bio would be through IVF with I CSI. Over the festive season we went around to SIL 1 for a family get together & as DH & I got there early I went to help SIL in the kitchen with a few last minute food items whilst DH was in the front room with SS & his nephew. So SIL knew that we had been TTC for a while & that we had been to the doctor. So she enquires how that went.
'Tis the season to be jolly .....possibly ss last Christmas with us
So long story short some of you may remember a while back DH & I had a shocker where MFI was confirmed...factor in that BM was a whore who had numerous affairs & "accidentally" fell pregnant on the pill & ss looks nothing like DH.So after months of drama where DH was then wasn't going to do a DNA test, factor in BM getting more batshit crazy as the festive season reached a crescendo,A decision has been made..after meeting with our RE last week we are starting IVF in the new year.
Shocked......confirmed male factor infertility & possible paternity fraud!!!
Long story short I don't post much on here but get a lot of strength from reading other people's posts on here. DH & I have been ttc for a while now & since nothing transpired month after month we decided to go see our Dr. I was convinced the problem is with me as I am 35 years old, have no kids whilst DH has an 11 year old son from a previous relationship ( conceived "accidentally" whilst BM was on the pill).
Update on DH ....cousins stag do .....& the nightmare I am living
So BM wasn't budging on having ss for DH this weekend,I said not my problem as this was "their" arrangement.I get a call from MIL at work 17h30 when will I be home so she can drop ss off-er excuse me but WTF???!I then find out DH had no where to put ss tonight so I am to look after him,he is going to FIL Sat eve back to me Sun & I am to take him to school Mon morn?!REALLY?DH are you freaking kidding me?!!!!I am so angry right now am ready to blow an artery-I hate my life!
DH cousin's stag do up the creek thanks to BM
Excuse me while I gloat here.......& yeah DH I hate to say it but "I told you do!". Bit of background......we have ss every Tues & Weds & every other wkend BM has him Mon & Thurs & every other wkend.So firstly last year BM was due to have ss on the weekend her hen do was planned so she e-mails DH & says " you need to have ss Thurs through to Mon morn as its my hen do".No please would you just you will do.
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Potential partners with children should come with health hazard warning
All potential partners with children should have a hazard warning card which should be read and signed by new partners to confirm they have understood that the relationship may be hazardous to their health and mental well being. This is the conclusion I have come to after yet another arguement with DH when he uttered the all famous "but you knew I had a child when we got togther". :sick:
Update on "the wheels on the karma bus go round & round".....CSA give BM a reality check
}:) So as some of you may recall from my last blog entry BM kicked off when DH approached her about adjusting maintenance payments (as she was receiving more than double the recommended CSA amount as she kept whinging she couldn't make ends meet as a single mum despite the fact that she got married 2 months back and was never married to DH so alimony was never due).BM promptly said she would contact CSA...........well CSA have written back and have informed all concerned that the maintenance payment is to be set at £142 a month.