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wtf am i doing?

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seriously, im not married yet, i have a lot to offer, and im still in my twenties. wtf am i doing spending my precious time, and energy on all of this? i love my fh very much, even with all that goes on we still are in love very much. For the most part he always puts me first, considers my feelings, and every day tries to make me happy.

bm blames me for everything that comes out of ss's mouth

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so things have been pretty calm recently except once a week bm calls my fh to yell about something ss is saying. Last week it was that ss said his daddy doesnt love him and sm and daddy fight all the time (not true we dont in front of ss, if we do) He supposedly told this to mil, who we no longer speak to. However, 2 weeks ago, ss told me that mil was saying that myself and my mother were bad and not to be nice to us. when fh tells bm, she says oh no i dont believe that, xmil wouldnt do that.

ugh... some advice please, im so frustrated!

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so its saturday, usually my only day off, but its our weekend with ss, so while fh is at work im watching ss4. Usually he is really good for me, but the last two times have been horrible thanks to bm and my mil. they are a true case of pas, from what ive ben reading. Last time ss informed me that he didnt want to go to my moms house because mil told him she was bad, now today he has said that if i dont do what he wants he will go live with his mom...and other crappy comments that are obviously coming from bm and mil.

can someone quickly explain what PAS is?

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i would really appreciate it! i think that from what i read and when people classify similar situations as ours as PAS, this is something i need to know about. Also, i fear that fh and i will soon be in court because bm and mil have failed thus far to get rid of me, and it seems that you all often speak of records of PAS helping in court.

thank you in advance!

how often do bm/dh talk to kids when not with them

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our schedule is this
our week: monday, tuesday, friday, sat, sun with us and wed, and thurs with bm

the next week it switches, so basically the longest they go is 3 days with out seeing ss. we tried doing a week with each and he turned for the worse, too long from each parent.

anyways, who ever he is not with talks to him in the morning and at night. to me this seems to be too much. bm also calls whenever she feels like it to discuss ss, rather than waiting until the night or morning when they talk to ss.

sometimes, i just want to punch her in the face..

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and tell her how stupid she is!

bm, who got knocked up, fh never loved, is now trying to get back with fh! She just called him at work to ask if she could stop by so they could talk. He said hell no, get a life and hung up. he doesnt even know what she wanted.

While im happy fh said what he did, im like wtf, if there wasnt a child involved and i lowered myself to her level, i would confront any woman chasing after my husband. it makes me so mad, that because of my ss i have to keep my mouth shut.

ot, but funny, well to me at least :)

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sooo, i get home and fh is on the phone with the ex. on speaker as usual so i can hear. She calls in tears, and of course fh thinks something is wrong with ss, so he asks, wtf is wrong? She says, oh nothing ss is fine, hes swimming at the kids down the street (btw, hes 3 almost 4, why is she not with him?) anyways, she goes on to say that things are really bad between her and bf, and its been a rough couple weeks. so fh, giggles and says, well ya know theres not much i can do about that, have ss call me when he gets back. she was silent and then says okay, bye.

when did skid call you step mom?

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i have been in ss4's life for 1.5yr now, and i am never referred to his step mom in front of him. I never really cared, because fh and i will not be married until the end of july, but after mothers days, ive been thinking more about it. My friends and fh all wished me a happy mothers day, because after all i am a mother to ss4 when he is with us. it was really sweet, and i felt happy knowing that people really do see how much i do for and care for ss.

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