so things have been pretty calm recently except once a week bm calls my fh to yell about something ss is saying. Last week it was that ss said his daddy doesnt love him and sm and daddy fight all the time (not true we dont in front of ss, if we do) He supposedly told this to mil, who we no longer speak to. However, 2 weeks ago, ss told me that mil was saying that myself and my mother were bad and not to be nice to us. when fh tells bm, she says oh no i dont believe that, xmil wouldnt do that. This week, bm calls to tell fh that ss is saying that he doesnt want to see mil, and its all my fault because i spent Saturday with ss. Yet, on saturday ss told me that his mom was telling him that bm and mil would be so happy if he lived with only bm and didnt see sm or daddy because they love him more...

i posted on saturday to say how i handled this, but after bm calls last night to yell at fh for ss saying he doesnt want to see mil, he says NOTHING about what ss is telling me. I tell him, why dont you tell her what hes saying to us, and tell her how kids are smart and if he has realized that mil is being mean or bad mouthing fh this probably caused him to not want to see her?!

No, nothing. instead he says that he doesnt want to continue the argument and that she is an idot no matter what he tells her. so, he ends the conversation with this, sm nikki has not said 1 bad thing about mil to ss, she actually says that mil loves ss very much if her name comes up, he is a smart kid and he can see that what you and my mom are doing is wrong. This has nothing to do with smnikki, you are just calling to harass me, get a life and stop calling me about this bs.

i have to say that i do feel he handled it right! What do we do though? i suggested taking ss to a counselor so we could get documentation of what he tells an impartial party. Also, to just make sure we keep documenting eveything. Is there any other things you suggest? I can already imagine the call now from fh, smnikki, i have come to get ss from daycare and hes not here, bm has claimed that we are un safe for ss and we have to go to court. (my friend said her sons father did this and they put a 3 week restraining order against her)