A few weeks ago my SO told me his family was having Thanksgiving on Saturday the 23rd. He said he didn't want to go, though, because his mother would still be visiting family out of the country. His brother and his wife are best friends with his BM2 and really screwed him over by feeding her information on her last ex-parte attempt. So he said he wasn't going.

I couldn't sleep last night, and i ended up going down a Reddit rabbit hole. Ended up on a forum where the advice ranged from "Don't do it! You'll regret it, ask me how i know!" to "It can work if you are mature, know your boundaries, communicate well, and don't have a lot of insecurity and jealousy."

Sounds familiar, but the forum was actually advice between members of the Marine Corps about marrying a stripper or sex worker. The similarities between the advice on there and the advice given to stepparents weirded me out. What does it all mean?! 

My SO and I have been doing the "Living Together Apart" thing and put marriage plans on hold. Mostly due to his inability (in my mind) to set boundaries with, well, anyone and everyone in his life. Things have been pretty peaceful since i "dropped the rope" and stopped trying to fight for the relationship i wanted us to have.

I don't need advice, and if anyone else has grievances that don't warrant a full post, feel free to comment and vent below! None of these issues warrant a full post and it's basically me whining about petty gripes, but here goes: