So in trying to address the problems that rock my family on a regular basis, I came across this article called "Why Nice Women Don't Like Step-Kids", written by Jill Deibel. Has this article been discussed here on Steptalk before, regulars? I have to think that it must have been but in case it hasn't, please Google it. It's an interesting read; some parts made me think that it was a satire but it's real. And, sadly, much of it rang true to my situation.

I have been gone from this site for over a year! After an "a-ha moment", she and I were actually on speaking terms for about a week and a half. Tra la la, rose-colored glasses, happy happy joy joy- DH laughing the whole time because he knew it would travel to hell in the proverbial hand basket before long. Which it did, of course, because BM is a narcissist. Anyway, it was nice for the time and I must admit that the anger I have for her is nothing compared to what I used to feel, so it was a healing experience of a sort.

I would love if some of you would share what has worked for you when it came to speaking to your kids about your ex meeting someone and having that person come live with them for an extended period of time.

Yesterday I had a lovely surprise- a shift in consciousness. I had let my block on my cell lapse, and BM texted an annoying text to DH and me. I responded with a smarty, she texted back something nasty, followed by another saying that she needed to re-block me as well. I suggested that she and I drop the sh!t and try to play nice. She actually agreed, and for the last 24+ hours I have been enjoying a life free of boiling rage and seething resentment toward her.