I wrote in Family Court forum a couple weeks back about a threat BM made, to contact our town and prevent skids from attending camp here (last year they split time here and in her town). Their stepsiblings go to camp here, they love camp here- it's a partial-day camp where I pick up at noon, then we do lunch/pool/etc...for the rest of the day.

...when I was naive and thought it would be possible for me to love my stepkids even a fraction of how much I love my own. I hate to say that my hatred of BM, her constant shit, DH's guilty dad syndrome over how much of a sicko she is, and my SSs' consequent neediness, have beaten my love for them right down to an ember.

I have tried Google, to no avail. Just wondering if anyone knows anything about twin behavior. SSs7 are growing more and more dependent upon each other where physical proximity is concerned as they get older. When they go to bed at night they start in different beds but it is not at all unusual to find them in the same bed in the middle of the night. Also, during daylight hours (on weekends) they entwine themselves with each other, they can never be without the other. This brings neediness to a whole other level and their dad is finding it pretty disconcerting.

Sigh. I have been doing really well with not thinking overmuch about BM and not letting her get to me. At almost 30 weeks pregnant with this SURPRISE baby, I feel like I've absolutely turned a corner where this woman is concerned. However....she recently said something about me which is just needling away at me. And I know why she said it- because she most likely has NPD, she believes what she wants to believe, and that will never ever change.