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Having a talk with DH's son this evening -- suggestions welcome

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Submitted by Mercury on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 11:20am

Here's the issue DH has to address tonight:

SS12 goes to [place for social interaction with peers] "XYZ" when he is with us. While there, he has transaction "ABC" with another 12yo kid he knows.

The skid goes back to mommy and as kids are prone to do, he talks about the big "what he did at Dad's house last week". Of course normal people say "Good, I'm glad you had fun with your other parent and I'm glad you have friends over there too." Not BM.

SD is helping BM alienate SS from DH now.

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Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 02/09/2015 - 11:56am

So, SD13 hasn't been to our house in 10 months. During that time, she has only initiated contact with DH a handful of times, usually on some occasion where gifts would be involved. He has gone to a number of her extracurricular events. She ignores him. He texts her regularly. She ignores him.

This is the direct result of BM actively trying to turn her against DH ever since he and I started dating. Well, that's not entirely true. It really started when DH was still married to the beast but it was amped to the max once I came into the picture.

Update -- This might get long so the TLDR version is: I'm doing much better now

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 12:33pm

I don't know exactly how much I've shared in here over the past month and a half but my life has been far from peaceful.

Christmas was the breaking point for me. After everything that happened, I gave myself a real gift, it was a sort of new year's resolution: I will not allow BM antics to occupy my time, energy, or thoughts. Ever. DH is not to discuss her correspondences with me. He will keep me in the loop if there are ever any changes in logistics that deviate from the norm but he WILL NOT inform me of the excruciating details of BM's shit stirring.

Another blog about Facebook drama

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Submitted by Mercury on Wed, 12/10/2014 - 12:56pm

I keep things locked down for the most part so my story isn't as bad as some of the things I've read about in here, but still...

In the beginning of our relationship I was so naive about DH's family and his ex. I mean, what kind of people could witness what BM did to DH, a blood relative to them, and still remain friends on fb and in real life with her? Oh.....

Thank you Step Talkers

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Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 12/01/2014 - 11:15am

It's been a really tough weekend. I usually look forward to long weekends but this one was pure hell. I spent most of those 4 days crying. We didn't even have skids. I don't want to go into all the details yet even though I desperately wish there was at least one person in my life I could turn to.

I didn't contribute to the forum much this weekend, but I read a lot. I just wanted to say thank you. You all help in ways you aren't even aware of.

Christmas with skids -- I'm going to embrace it.

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Submitted by Mercury on Tue, 11/04/2014 - 9:49am

Caution: This is NOT a feel good blog about putting aside differences and spreading goodwill.

I have seen so many blogs about entitled skids and with Christmas just around the corner I expect to see many, many more. I really wanted to skip Christmas this year and just go on a romantic trip with DH but that doesn't seem to be working out. He really wants to be with his kids. Bah-humbug.

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