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Small Victories! DH grew a tiny set of Balls

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 11:34am

Counseling is finally starting to pay off. Last night HorsefaceBM calls. I knew it was to either ask for money or to take the kid extra. Turns out it was fat-ass SS15 who wanted to come here last night and today (our times this week is Wed-Sun) because his Mom keeps yelling at him. My H said NO! Can you believe it!? All of these years he has taken the kids for up to 3 months extra every year because he let them come stay any time they want, he can't tell her/them no.

Shit on for the Best of Intentions

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 4:22pm

I feel so sorry for step-parents. Most of them start out with a huge heart and the best of intentions.

I know myself, I would cook wonderful meals... only to find the kids to talk crappy about my food - or rudely throw it in the sink. My DH never said a word he just let them. I stopped cooking for them about 6 months ago.

I used to make a big deal out of all the holidays and birthdays so they would feel special and loved here. I never got so much as a thank you and would often make fun of the decorations.

My Health is Going Down Hill & I resent my H and his sons

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Sat, 09/29/2012 - 8:31pm

I learned on Thursday that if I lose 10% more lung function I will be in end stage lung failure and will need a lung transplant. I have bronchiostatis from the severe damage the pneumonias caused. I have also walked around with a collapsed middle right lobe since getting sick in 2008.

I have only had breathing problems since 2008 when I had two back to back bouts of pnuemonia.

I got the first bout of pnuemonia from my oldest SS now 18. He used my tooth brush, I found out after I got extremely ill and almost died.

Words of Wisdom by my Marriage Counselor

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Fri, 09/14/2012 - 3:26pm

* Always treat your new wife as if she were your first.

* Always put your husband/wife first and foremost - even over the children. A happy foundation makes for a strong home.

* Always approach matter with the children as a united front.

* Get the bitter first wife the HELL OUT YOUR MARRIAGE.

* Set boundaries with children (respect) and ExW.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Sat, 09/08/2012 - 6:29pm

Last night my H and I were out having some frozen yoghurt. A couple came in with 6 kids. The man and women were holding hands and them man kept lovingly rubbing her arm and brushing her cheek and taking her hand into his and gently kissing it. It appeared the man had 4 boys and she had 2 girls.

I said to my H "I bet they aren't married yet." A blended family in the making. I wanted to walk up to the lady and tell her to RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!! You don't know what you are getting into!

Stepmonster on disengaging

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Wed, 09/05/2012 - 8:22pm

DISENGAGING
To disengage--to simply try less or stop trying at all--requires accepting a number of truths about being married to a man with children.

*They are not your children.
*You are not responsible for overcoming their upbringing or any emotional or social problems they have.
* You are not responsible for what kind of people they are. You are not responsible for what kind of people they become.
*These responsibilities belong to your husband, who will likely not raise his kids (or make interventions with his adult kids) the way you would.

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