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Every event must be tainted by DH with talk about adult SD's

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Tonight DH and I had dinner at my friend's house with her DH and children. It was our Christmas get together belated. Everything was lovely. Yet still somehow on the drive home DH manages to sour my evening with mention of his Adult daughters. Something in the conversation brought to his mind how it related to his daughters and the one middle DD in particular. He says to me everyone is not strong like I am....and he goes on to say how MDD gets taken advantage of by people and how she is always the victim.

When will DH ever stop wanting me to fix the estrangement with his family.?

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Again tonight DH brings up the mess with his family. A bunch of gaslight talk about how time is passing and how long will this all go on? How he doesn't feel comfortable going to his family events by himself...how he wants to talk to me about a solution. Which means I am supposed to fix it all. I held my ground that perhaps when they own up to what they all have done then maybe I would agreed to meet in a neutral place. Not on a holiday or birthday event.

Thanksgiving Dread...how to let DH know I do not plan to go with him to his folks...

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They put in their order sometime in June or so.
There was no discussion with me about if I wanted to go....it was more like...they expect all their sons to be there. This is a good five hour or so drive away.

Another argument over the Stupid Skids, second in four days.

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Wake up this morning to DH saying that OSD and MSD are going to stop by for MSD' presents from DH. He has not seen her in about 2 years, she is the bitch that caused the whole train wreck. They were just going to meet in the driveway but still WTF. I ask him to please meet them down the road for the drive by present grab for this 30 yr old bitch. He takes offense to my request and has a hissy. He does not want to have to tell his precious girls that they can't come here

A little kindness goes a long way...sometimes around the world.

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A post recently by a lady who lives clear across the world and oceans away from me made me think today to write this.
This lady was going thru a very traumatic event in her life and reached out to this community. She was really in shock from what had happened and I think this was her lifeline to process what was going on.
Many responded with support and advice. Much of it was helpful or at least well intended sometimes with shared stories about like situations.

OT- health issue

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I have been having a lot of health issues lately. I mostly put it all off to stress. There have been a great many stresses this past year.
One of which being my DD 29 becoming estranged and only letting me see my GD4 once this whole year. According to my ex our DD is in therapy now and being treated for something that may have contributed to her mental state that led to our situation. I have been going to counseling to help me deal with the sadness and grief. I am not trying to contact DD, just letting go and letting God work on it for now.

OT- Puppy update

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The new puppies are 11 weeks old now. They just had second round of shots. They gained from 12.5 lbs up to 18 lbs! They are growing so fast!
They are supper smart, learning commands and the routine quickly. They still like to chew on me a bit but it is getting better. They love to wrestle with each other most of all. We are waiting till all the shots are done in another month before we take them places, just not worth the risk.

OT-but skid related. New fur babies!

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Today was an exciting day. After four weeks of waiting we went to pick up our new 8wk old puppies! I was preparing for their arrival these past few weeks and up late last night setting up the initial puppy area they will be in while crate training. This morning I was up early even though I am not an early person.

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