In May, my DS57 learned that a polyp removed during a colonoscopy was malignant.  He and his wife moved temporarily to a city with a great medical center and they prepared for colon surgery.  DIL had previous experience with a doctor there who they trusted.

The seasoned STers know my story with SD60.  For any new readers, she's been a long-time (50 year) manipulative, lying, thieving troublemaking Daddee's girl.  After her last disasterous stint living with us 5 years ago, I have grayrocked her.  I keep things polite and civil for DH85's sake.  We subsidize her living expense, she's unemployed and on disability.   He's a cancer patient, luckily doing well, and she regularly tears up about his condition, her love for him and dramatic predictions of her reaction when he passes.  He deserves her devotion for the untold times he has rescued her fr

I posted last week asking what would happen to our 48th anniversary plans to spend 2 nights at our local casino: 1) we would have a wonderful time or 2) SD60 would call with another monthend emergency that would cause us to postpone our plans, or 3) SD60 would call with another monthend emergency but we'd still be able to go altho we'd be late and I'd be resentful.

The winner is.....#1!  We had a great time!  Ate too much, drank too much, spent too much but it was so fun!   I think DH84 pre-empted the situation by giving her some $ last week.  Whatever.

I want to thank Steptalk for giving me insights into my dynamic with SD60 and practical suggestions.  She's a bipolar person who has always caused chaos in the entire family's life.  My DH84 loves his only daughter and has always enabled her. .She's been on disability for 7 years and has both physical and mental issues.