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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 6:18pm

BM2 is high conflict, and has NO custody. She gets 8 weeks a year of summer vacation. Refuses to pay her child support. Refuses to tend to SDs special needs when she has her. Just an all round piece of crap deadbeat parent.

She lives in Georgia. We live in Alaska. She emails DH yesterday to tell him that her family is flying her up for a visit, and she wants to see SD. Can she take her for the weekend?

Well, that depends, BM. Did hell freeze over? Did you wake up this morning to a troupe of monkeys flying past your bedroom window? I didn't think so.

Weird week

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 08/22/2014 - 2:26pm

BM3 calls DH in the middle of the week and tells him that her XH is snooping around for info on her new boyfriend (the convicted meth dealer with a rap sheet a mile long, who is the reason we now have primary residency with SD7.) No doubt XH saw that we got custody and is trying to figure out why. She calls DH up and apologizes and wants to make sure they're "good". Whatever.

No More Mr. Nice Guy

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 08/15/2014 - 7:44pm

I never wanted to be in the position of being the gatekeeper between an adult and their child, and I don't mind saying that I feel very resentful of BM3 and her choices that have led up to me being put in the position of raising her child a lot of the time and telling her "No, it's not a good time for you to drop by and get your 15 minute parenting fix."

We just transitioned from week on/week off to SD7 residing here full time and visiting BM3 3 weekends a month.

Rough Morning

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Mon, 08/11/2014 - 1:00pm

I'm trying to give BM3 the benefit of the doubt, and be patient with her, but she's not making it easy.

We just went from 50/50 custody (week on week off) to SD living here full time and visiting BM 3 weekends a month. This happened because BM continues to make shitty choices, won't get herself together, and doesn't prioritize SD7.

This is as petty as it gets, please bear with me.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Mon, 06/02/2014 - 3:05pm

I realize that this is extremely petty. It's a vent, okay, just a vent.

I have two small parrots. They're Green Cheek Conures. Look em up if you don't know what they are. They're small parrots, but very intelligent.

I used to have large parrots. A Macaw and a couple of African Greys. They were all older birds that I had been given, with the exception of my adolescent and very ill tempered Macaw. As my family grew, I gave my birds to homes where they could be happy and my children would be safe. My love for parrots remained.

Tired of Having the Only Balls Here

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 7:43pm

This past weekend was about the last straw.

I haven't been dealing with the BMs for a while. I took a self imposed hiatus because it was too stressful.

This past weekend was probably the first weekend I've had to deal with any of them in quite a while. I packed SD11 up to go visit her mom for 8 weeks. It was stressful. SD11's BM2 is high conflict and career welfare. We were just in court with her a month ago, and she has been a total asshole since then, probably because DH got what he asked for and the judge handed her her ass in court.

Would you request a modification?

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Mon, 11/04/2013 - 3:04pm

BM2 pays $50 a month in CS for SD11. DH has had custody of SD11 for years, despite the fact that BM2 has taken him to court a few times to try to get custody. She's unstable. Unreliable. We live in Alaska, and she moved to Georgia in October of 2012 with her newest guy (who she had then been dating for about 4 months). He is military.

She has 8 weeks a year of visitation in the summer.

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