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It's a small thing, but when has that ever stopped me from dropping the hammer?

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Monday I forgot to lay anything out for dinner. The whole day was a ripper. My three year old had been sick for a few days fighting an ear infection. My 1 year old had seasonal allergies. I work from home. I'll leave my productivity level to your imagination.

Yay DH!

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DH texted BM3 and asked her to call him today. He just texted me and told me that he explained to her that it's unfair to expect me to plan around 3 BMs and their preferences and schedules all summer long, and that I'm not going to do it this summer. He also explained AGAIN that given her behavioral issues, consistency is the very best thing for SD6. Pickups will be on Fridays after 5, and BM3 will need to coordinate the pickups with DH himself, not with me.

Actually kids ARE a lot like puppies.

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Take a puppy from a breeder or the shelter or what have you. You get this puppy when he's 8 weeks old. You get him a crate. Potty train him properly. You take the time and effort to be consistent, teach him not to jump up on people, reward him for good behavior, do not reward him for undesirable behavior. Give him a purpose and let him earn his keep. Keep him for life instead of passing him around. This is how you get a good dog. A dog everyone will miss when he's gone.

Disengaged at last. Disengaged at last.

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Thank God almighty I am disengaged at last!

DH was right. His kids can't be held to the same standards as mine. I'm done wasting my time trying. SD5 will have to go to daycare during the day on her weeks here. She isn't capeable of meeting the expectation of behavior here during the day, and I can't be bothered to discipline her.

SD9, bless her little heart, has the IQ of a box of saltines. Expecting her to be able to execute a chore list is ludacrous.

On the topic of equal gifting...

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For those of you with more than one bio kid, do you always give them all gifts when you give a gift to one?

I have 6 between my bios and steps. I have 3 bios, DS12, DD8, and DD2. I'm due in a week with baby DD.

Sometimes I see something that one of the children would particularly enjoy, and I go ahead and pick up the item and give it to the cild later. Not just for my bios...I do it for my steps too. They're all VERY different, and enjoy different things. If I bought something for all the kids every time I bought something for one, it would financially cripple us!

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