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Should I mention this to DH? OT

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Ok, for those of you who don't know...

My son's spermdad has never been part of our lives. My husband met my son when he was a week old, married me when my son was 7 months old... and today my son is 20 months old. He is the ONLY father figure my son has ever had, and he will be legally adopting at some point.

Well, he refers to him as "my son" with everybody... and tells me he loves him as his own...

And of course, there is also SD5 that he had with his girlfriend at the time.

My DH's #1 priority...

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So I asked him...

What is your number one priority in life?

He said: YOU...

Isn't that refreshing!....

I can't stop wearing my smile...

And not only that, but he proves it to me everyday...

And here is a little something... why i think marriage comes first...

When you have a GREAT marriage, you provide an overall stable home... consequently the kids will benefit from that.

When you focus on the children, in no WAY the marriage benefits from that...

Am I asking too much?

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Ok, so last thursday was SD5's preK Graduation and it was over by 11:30 AM. She was going to stay with us until Sunday and then she was going to be gone for about 3 weeks, because she was going to her mother's (and DH's) home state in a road trip or whatever...
And BM and her boyfriend were/are leaving on Sunday...

A Very simple Vent

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I just have a simple question(s)...

Why did we get into this life?
Why is it that we couldn't back off early in the "getting to know the person" stage?

I know I said "YES" to all of this... and I know this is NOT how I usually sound, but right now I'm just really DOWN...

Being with a man without a constant reminder of his past (child, BM... etc...) would have been much easier... I'm jealous of all of those who have that. To the point in which it HURTS to see friends in a marriage without having to deal with all these feelings and all this BullSh!t...

Nightlights

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Do you think Nightlights in general are OK for kids?

I seem to have a problem with them... for some reason...

Well SD5 and BS1 share a room, and he doesn't go to sleep unless is dark, otherwise he will stay playing...

SD5 sometimes claims that she is "scared of the dark", DH bought her a nightlight and I do not agree with that, I think children should sleep in the dark...

BS will be gone for about a month, and I don't want her to get used to the nightlight, and then have BS come back and not be able to sleep with light...

SD'd hair for cancer patients UPDATE****

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For those of you who have read my previous blog entry about BM telling DH that she is thinking about having SD5 cut her butt length hair to donate it to cancer patients... Just skip until after the asterisks... If you want some background info, then just read through...

Well, I do not think is a decision someone like SD5 should be left with... Many times, she says YES to something but when that "something" actually comes reality, she doesn't want it/like it... My 3 major reasons of why I think this is not the greatest idea are...

SD5's hair for cancer patients...

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So... DH told me that BM was talking to him about cutting SD5's pony tail (butt length) to donate it for cancer patients... WTF??? She said that SD5 said she wants to do it but honestly I think that 5 year olds are not capable of taking decisions like that.

She is a Girly girl, she LOVES her hair long, and I'm sure saying that "she wants to do it" and actually "doing it" is different... when she sees her shoulder length hair... oh gosh...

DH and SD5

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Does it bother me to see him kissing her on the lips?

YES!... maybe cuz I come from a family in which we don't lip kiss...

But it bothers me GREATLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Does it bother me when he calls her "baby" and calls me "baby" too???

YES it bothers me greatly!!!

How about when he says " i love you baby" and kisses her... and then... the same thing to me... WTF???

I think that pet names and kisses for a wife and a child should be different

Whatever... i'm pissed off...

And I just wanted to let it out...

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