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Really need advice, thoughts, opinions...Husband may have fathered another child

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Submitted by ell on Wed, 12/14/2011 - 9:09am

My husband told me he may have fathered another child 9 years ago, and the child was born within weeks of our daughter's birth...yeah, I did the math Sad

At first I was so angry with him - he was with other girls, but we were both young and always messing up, so I got over it.

Has anyone seen the cchrint commercial

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Submitted by ell on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 2:27pm

I saw this commercial today and it had me crying, lol, it even got some emotion from my husband Wink
The message of this commercial is stop psychiatric labeling of kids...Let people choose their own labels:

Social Anxiety Disorder or Humanitarian
Oppostitianal Defiant Disorder or Leader
Bipolar Disorder or Artist
Personality Disorder or Philosopher
and most importanly...ADHD or kid

love love love that commercial.

no venting for me today - changin it up - top 10 things i love about my stepson

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Submitted by ell on Mon, 09/26/2011 - 11:15am

10. the way i catch you kissing my dogs when i'm not looking
9. the way you donated some of your saved money to help pay for MY dog's operation
8. the way you let my girls play in your room even though they bug the crap out of you
7. the way you walk them home from school, the days you remember anyway, lol
6. the way we forgive each other in our own little ways
5. the way you try to be like me in my art, music and hobbies even though in the past i've taken so little interest in you

Reproductive Narcissist

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Submitted by ell on Sun, 09/25/2011 - 1:55pm

i just read the most recent issue of time magazine, the article named "playing favorites". they tried to describe the science behind favoritism and explain why and how we nurture our children differently. frankly, i don't like to be compared to animals in the way i raise my "offspring", but i did find the article interesting in how it relates to raising step-children.

a peek into my husbands mind this morning before my date with a breakfast burrito

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Submitted by ell on Sun, 09/25/2011 - 10:07am

i read some comments about the things we say to our husbands about our SKs and it got me thinking. my husband and i were just talking about how the fathers feel in these blended family situations, well, how he feels anyway...

he said that fathers like himself who have fought for custody of their children and who haven't run for the hills are the good dads. they struggle every day to piece the broken family puzzle back together. he feels overwhelmed when i say negative things about the family he has worked so hard to create and nurture.

my husband's advice on how to stop resenting your step-children, funny

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Submitted by ell on Sat, 09/24/2011 - 10:06pm

after talking with my husband about reading an article about resenting step children, he advised that if you just keep having kids like we did, you eventually just start to resent them all. lol, i love him. i hope this shows some of you who are new to the step parent struggles that it will get better. and someday you might even be able to laugh about it. Smile

jealousy at the drop off

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Submitted by ell on Sat, 09/24/2011 - 8:55pm

I'll get to the past that's led up to my present later.

This weekend, dropping my ss off at his mother's home in the hood, i couldn't help but rant to my husband about how much i loathe that girl. she is not a woman. she is not a mother. she is so skinny now because of the drugs we can't prove she takes and it makes me mad to see her in those friggin skinny jeans! she is selfish and gross, lol, grrr, and i would not be very sad if she disappeared from the earth. }:)