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So far so good - small annoyances

Elea's picture

YSD26 is still ligering in the area, housesitting. DH spent a day out with her. I did not ask quesitons. For example,  "Was she a complete brat?" I don't need to know. And if they had a nice time, I don't need to know that either. I don't want to hear it. I know that I won't get the real story anyway because DH wears his rose colored glasses, most of the time, until he has had enough and finally reaches a breaking point. 

DH didn't say much about their time together. I actually prefer it that way. The good news is that SD has been staying away from our home. I am pleasantly surprised that unlike past visits, she is not making daily demands for DH to entertain her. DH says she has friends in the area. (I have yet to see SD have a friend, but whatever.) 

Then, out of the blue he tells me that SD is not only housesitting but also petsitting a dog. He goes on to tell me a story which perfectly illustrates why I can't stand being around SD (or DH when he is with SD.)

The pet owner instructed SD that the dog is to wear a halter when she takes the dog for a walk. SD, in her infinite wisdom, knows better than the pet's own owner. She tells DH that the halter is "kinda heavy" and decides that she will walk the dog with just a regular collar. DH said they walked the dog past another dog. The dog got nervous and backed away. It was able to pull it's head right out from the collar. Fortunately, they were able to catch the dog and put it's collar back on. 

I told DH "That's why it is supposed to be walked on a halter." To which he gave a curt, "Yes, of course." I immediately dropped the conversation. The fact that he didn't call SD out on her stupidity is annoying. DH being curt when I point out the obvious is annoying. Him telling me a story about how stupid she is and then having to bite my tongue is annoying. Her behavior is annoying. I don't want to know about the stupid stuff she does. 

One day last year while we were all hanging out in the yard, I pointed out to DH and SD that birds were building nests in our bird boxes. SD says, "They're just playing." I pointed at a bird with a twig in it's mouth and said, "You can see it has a twig in it's mouth and it's taking it into the birdhouse." She says, "No, they're just flying around and playing." I didn't say anything else, no use explaining to someone who choses to be antagonizing and insolent. DH didn't bother to call her out on it.

And this is a SD that holds herself high above everyone else as "sustainable" and "going green." She doesn't even understand the basics of the birds and the bees. 

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Yesterdays's picture

My husband too, has the rose colored glasses. And on one hand I want to know what they get up to, but also it always feels annoying to hear. Same as you, there is always some kind of story that my husband fails to notice and only I do.. It's the sort of stuff he would never correct when we were all hanging out

My SD was quite the know it all as well. She tended to be wrong but claim she "knew best". (and was usually rude in general). We were on vacation once and we saw a duck. She claimed over and over that it was a loon. There are no loons in this area.

I pointed out loons are black with long neck and white spots. Nope, nope, nope. This is a duck!

She used to always quote TikTok as the ultimate source and say the most ludicrous things that she actually believed

When they used to stay at our house SD was full on vegan and she constantly complained about our food that we had, no matter what we made to accommodate. When they stopped coming over all of the sudden she ate meat again. And now when they meet up they usually eat shawarma!

Somehow whenever his daughter was rude he found it enchanting somehow, like she was soooo smart or something that he completely overlooked how rude she was being to people and never got her in trouble 

Elea's picture

A duck looks nothing like a loon. Lol. I probably shouldn't care but my parents' are scientists that studied birds, among other things, so SD blasting out totally incorrect bird information really jumps out at me as a special kind of stupid. 

My SD's also pulled the "Now we're vegetarian" "Now we're not" Bullcrap. To add to the charm they started it by announcing they are vegetarian as they sad down to a Christmas dinner that I had prepared. Later that same week YSD was chowing down a hamburger. *diablo*

Yesterdays's picture

I have to say it was annoying to hear she was dog sitting and chose to go against the owners wishes of what type of collar to use only to have it fail and potentially have a bad issue of the dog running off or something. Arrrg. Lol. I can understand the frustration. 

Elea's picture

I do hope the dog survives the rest of the week or however long she's going to be watching it. She doesn't seem to understand that rules are there for a reason.

I am the type of person that is diligent about respecting rules and instructions, especially when I am new to a job or in an unfamiliar environment. Her know-it-all attitude and lack of attention to detail irritates the bejesus out of me. 

Rags's picture

When the nonviable Skidults keep proving what they are and the Hope-ium stoned breeder that spawned them gets irritated when reality is pointed out that is the perfect time to double down on pointing it all out, over, and over, and over again closing with "So, what are the odds that the SKid will actually learn something and make changes in their life?"

Nea

Elea's picture

This isn't really a big enough update to warrant a new post but I need to let off steam so I'll add an update here. 

SD26 is oddly coy with DH and rarely tells him her plans in a straight-forward manner. There is no reason for this other than she likes to play stupid little guessing games, the same as BM did. Perhaps it makes her feel powerful to withhold information? I don't know but we don't really care what she is doing as long as she's not bothering us. 

She finally told DH that she has taken on a new housesitting job and now she will continue to be in our area until mid-August. (Who knows what she plans to do after that?) She claims that she "can't stand" the area where BM lives even though BM moved to that state after SD chose to go to college and graduated from college there. (I am so happy BM is gone from our town.) 

Everhything SD does has some kind of underlying hidden motive. I think she is hanging out in our area in an attempt to guilt DH about how she will stay practically right down the street from us but not see us because she is no longer treated as queen mini-wife in our home. She started this new thing last summer of housesitting in our area.

No matter. I am grateful that I don't have to deal with her demanding and entitled butt in our house anymore.

But, I know that she will likely eventually come back around because it is going to be too difficult to demand to be the center of attention from afar. It is also impossible to attempt to triangulate us or to blame me when I am not involved. She is already playing games like "forgetting" her wallet in DH's car. Then, last weekend she asked DH to drive 2+ hours round-trip to bring her an item from our house. DH declined but agreed to meet her 10 min from our house. That wasn't good enough for princess so the exchange never took place. Lol I think she's testing to see if she can push him around. It is wonderful to no longer be personally involved nor invested in these games. DH is having to take the full brunt force of her nonsense without me to soften the blow. I am disengaged and I try to stay emotionally disengaged as well. 

DH and I are about to go on a two week summer vacation. My adult BK's will be holding down the fort and watching our dog. That should keep SD at bay while we are gone. I don't want her in our house when we're not here.  It will be funny when SD asks to see ONLY DH, only to realize that we went on vacation without her while she is in the area.