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how to deal with anger at SD?

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I haven't posted in a while, so a very brief history: SD25 has 2 children, now ages 7 and 4 (they both just had birthdays this month). She no longer takes care of them, she is off living at a friend's house, has no car, spends all her money out partying. We have my 2 stepgrandsons living at our house 4 days a week, the other 3 they are with their father. I'm not happy with the situation, but I feel for the kids, it's not their fault and they deserve a good home and good loving care, which DW wants to provide for them.

SD22 is pregnant again!

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Just when some relief was in sight - we've had SD25's 2 kids living with us since last August, and they are supposed to start living at their father's 5 days a week over the summer - I get hit with this news. SD22 is jobless, penniless, has a 2-year-old from a different father, and still can't even take care of herself, much less her son, and now another on the way. At least DW is as disgusted with her as I am. Since SD22 had her first baby before I discovered this site, you all were spared the awful details and the drama she brought into our lives leading up to having her first baby.

A positive development!

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I've been busy all week, finally getting a chance to post this. Since last August when SD25 moved in with her 2 kids, it seems things were just getting worse and worse, especially since mid-January when SD25 got kicked out and DW basically adopted the grandkids for 4 1/2 days every week. But I finally got some GOOD NEWS last weekend. DW sat down with the grandchildren's father and his girlfriend. They were talking about schedules for the next couple of weeks.

Hating living with my grandcildren

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Well, it's been 7 weeks since SD25 got kicked out and SGS6 and SGS3 have become our responsibility (see my topic "stepgrandcildren moving in" in the Adult Stepchildren Issues forum for background). I've very unhappy, and I can't see things getting any better. DW is already upset with me for being unsupportive - though I understand her reason for taking in these kids, I don't agree our home should be their primary residence - and for avoiding being around much of the time when the kids are there.

SD25 went to Las Vegas?!

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This is unbelievable! I just learned that my SD, whose 2 children are living with DW and I because she doesn't want to take care of her own kids, went to Las Vegas to spend a week partying there with a friend last week. She has been staying with friends, moving from one to another, since she got kicked out of our house last month. So how could she fly to Vegas when she can't even afford to get an apartment for herself? It turns out her kids' father claims the kids on his tax return and got a $5000 refund.