There IS a light at the end of the tunnel
I doubt there is anyone left here that would remember me, but I wanted to come and try and give you all some hope.
Years ago when I first joined STalk, I wasn't sure if DH and I were going to make it through the constant Skid/BM drama. Trust me it wasn't easy, but im here to say now that skids are adults, life is so much better!
Zero contact with BMs for years...we still hear about them now and then...BM1 got evicted again and is living with one of her daughters and her friends in an apartment. BM1 is crazy so I'm sure that's going swimmingly lol. BM2 just got divorced from her husband that was 17 years younger than her (go figure) and is working her usual type job at a bar, looking for a new man to take care of her.
SD is doing amazingly wonderful. She was a lying, manipulative, slob when she lived with us, DH shipped her off to his aunts 4 states away from us to get her away from BM1 and that clan and it was the best thing he could have done! She graduated high school, got a 4 year degree from a D1 school, joined the army, got married, had a daughter (now 2 years old) and is expecting a son in January. She is a fantastic mother and wife and we're really proud of her.
SS dropped out of high school, and worked some dead end jobs for a few years and then DH was able to get him a job at a local sporting goods store that a friend of ours owns. He's been there about a year, is doing wonderful, and working on getting his CDL He has some money saved up and is hopefully on the right track now.
Our BS is 15! Consistent high honor roll student, plays travel baseball and school baseball, was just named to the All Star list his freshman year for the varsity team, and is a respectful, wonderful human.
DH and I will be celebrating our 15 year anniversary next week. Again there were times I didnt think we'd make it to 5 years because of Step drama, but here we are!
I know it can be so hard and so frustrating some times but hang in there guys, and know it CAN get better! Wishing you all the best that life can give you, whatever stage of the step process you are in.
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I remember you Daisy.
SD, SS, and DS are thriving because they have you and their father. You countered the Harpy twin BM's and raised them with standards and structure.
Thanks for sharing your story of success.
DW and I will celebrate our 31st anniversary next month. Our son is doing well and has less than 6yrs left until he reaches full retirement eligibility from the military. Sadly, his three younger also out of wedlock Spermidiot spawned half sibs include one who is on the dole, one who is in prison on a long sentence for felony armed burglary, and the youngest who is not far behind the inmate.
SS wrote off the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool nearly a decade ago due to their never ending manipulation, lies, and attempts to get him to repay CS.
I am very happy for you, DH and all of the kids.
Thanks for the update.
I remember you, Daizy. What a
I remember you, Daizy. What a great update!
I maintain that joining STalk saved my marriage. Today, DH and I are better than ever, and I have great relationships with all of the skids.
You and I are blessed with success, despite all of the bumps and bruises.
Happy anniversary!!!
Congratulation
All sounds great. We livrd thru it, too, and life is so much better when they are lsunched. Congrstulations!
I remember you Daizy -
I remember you Daizy - congrats on your anniversary and your improved life! ;-) My SDs are now 30 and 28, the 30 yr old is still a pain. I cut off all contact with her in 2022, which nearly proved the end of my marriage, but I stuck to my guns and DH now sees both of them away from our home. SD30 seems to be behaving better - but quite frankly I don't care as I don't see her, and would be happy never to again. It's great to hear your SKIDs are doing better and your BS sounds great! Well done all round.
Hey, Daizy! It's been awhile
Hey, Daizy! It's been awhile but I remember you. I am so glad everything has turned out well.
We also have had no contact with BM for many years and that alone changes the whole dynamic. While my SD34 is not exactly an overachiever, she now sees BM for what she is and that has made a big difference in her relationship with DH.
That's amazing to hear! I
That's amazing to hear! I have read a couple of success stories on here which can be refreshing since most situations do not end up well at all
For me, when I finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel (Steps were older and not as present, BMs no longer require that much engagement), my marriage was too damaged to turn back unfortunately. Sometimes years of fighting or being sidelined will just ruin the relationship so the light at the end of the tunnel can be bittersweet in a sense
I wish you continued happiness and great things ahead
Daizy! Hi! I remember you!
Daizy! Hi! I remember you! Glad to hear everything is going so much better. Same here! It's so nice to hear an update.
You're an awesome mom Daisy,
You're an awesome mom Daisy, and raising an awesome young man. I'm so glad you have peace.
Wow, nice to see comments
Wow, nice to see comments from people whose names I haven't seen in a while. I remember you too and am glad that things have finally settled down and your life is happy at last. I also agree that the SD's reaching adulthood was the best thing for my marriage as well.