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Hey, fellow Stalkers-update for those that remember me

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 8:53am

Hey bitchez! Sure there's a lot of new faces here that dont know me, I'm an old timer and haven't been around in quite a long time because skids haven't been around in quite a long time, so no need to vent and commiserate. Funny how that works? 

DH hasnt spoken to SD21 since July of 2018 and the blow up over her lying to his face yet again about the car that we gave her.  I honestly dont think he cares.  I think he realizes just how peaceful and drama free our life is without her nonsense.  DH hasnt spoken to SS20 since he dropped out of school and child support stopped.  DH has tried to contact a couple times as well as MIL, but SS never returns calls, so funny how that works too....no money coming from dad, then no time for dad.  No clue if he is working (doubtful) and guessing he is still living with BM2.  BM2s older son (not DHs) was recently the county sheriffs Wanted Wednesday fugitive for parole violation.  According to his FB he was facing 1-3 years in prison,  but skirted that and instead is on house arrest.  The craziness never stops with these clowns! 

 BS9 is thriving, he loves school and is involved in every sport he can do so he keeps us busy and proud. So glad the skids are not around to cause drama for him!  (And us) I would love to be one big happy family someday, but saddly, don't think that will ever happen...just too much bad history and no effort for change by skids, and crazy PASing BMs. 

Hope Stepife is not treating you all too badly..and yay!! Spring is right around the corner! Xoxoxoxo

 

 

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Submitted by beebeel on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 8:56am

I've been wondering how life was going for you. Happy to hear it is relatively skid free! 

And don't tease me with talks of spring. MN is about to get another FOOT of snow this weekend. Waaaaaaah. Sad

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 11:37am

Oh Lort!! I hope it's not headed my way after it hits you!! I just can't with this snow and cold anymore!!! We need to move somewhere like Hawaii where this white crap doesnt happen.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 9:30am

Hey, Daizy, it's been awhile!

So glad that your DH has come to terms with his ungrateful kids and doesn't chase them. It's sad but there is no use moping around about something he cannot change. He can't change their attitudes, no matter how hard he tries. Might as well enjoy the people in his life that DO love him.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 11:46am

These passive guilty dads forget what life is like without drama in it. But when they get the chance to experience a block of peace and normalcy and detox a bit, the light bulb goes off, they realize there's another way to live, and turn towards it. 

We've both earned a bit of peace. Life IS good!

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Submitted by CLove on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 2:48pm

So you wont have to slog through the blogs:

1. Toxic Feral Eldest SD20 stopped coming around our house, even though she had been living there since graduation, because she had a place to live closer to work where there were no rules and such, and in november when they booted her out, found that her toxic ways made it so that only her mother could take her in. They fight, viciously, on a constant basis, and then end up hanging out together after these fights like bffs.

2. Munchkin SD12, she recently told me that Im like her second mom and told DH (we got married in July 2018) that I am more of a mom than her mom is and that I am always there for her. She gets to listen to Toxic Troll BM talk all about her new men and other men, and its just always men, men men. Munchkin just puts on her headphones. Toxic Troll, right after our elopement, decided that suddenly she needed child support and filed and got some. Munchkin doesnt see a dime, it goes into the "household", so things really did not improve for her at all. She still doesnt have a room of her own in the sad little apartment, but now she has another bunny, who resides there.

Not much else except the occasional spate of texts that DH recieves either because of something I said or something Toxic Troll said. Its his monthly drama.

I recently got an exceptional job, they are lovely and I love it and Im making good money. Great benefits too!!!!!! We are now officially able to buy our home and save for retirement and go out to do fun things and actually maybe have some awesome vacations where we can travel, sort of...

Yes, getting the toxic out of your life makes it so much more joyous. Munchkin has noticed a difference and I think she might want to move in with us full time.

Biggrin

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 5:36pm

Thanks for the update! Glad things are more drama free for you as well! I have no idea how I made it through all those years of constant drama, fighting and nonsense.  So glad we made it out the other side!  I'm certain the skids will be back around with drama from time to time and how DH handles it, now that they are adults in on him.  If he wants to forgive, forget, whatever, that's his call.  I have already told him that I dont want SD at my house until there are serious apologies from her and proof of her working to be better (i.e.therapy, distance from crazy BM etc) but I just dont see that ever happening since she is a narcissistic sociopath who thinks she does no wrong.