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Fake-giving still not over

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Submitted by Chmmy on Sat, 11/24/2018 - 5:21pm

After hosting Thanksgiving for 30, his family & mine, we are now hosting a 2nd Thansgiving for some of my extended family. Just hors d'oeuvres, snacks & pizza. When DH was ordering pizza for the family he asked each of the skids what they wanted. SD16 got chicken tenders, SS10 got pasta & SS11 got his own small pizza. I thought we were doing pizza and home made hore d'oeures cuz to save a little cash over catering.

I can't take it that his kids are more special than anyone and then I blame the kids for being entitled assholes.

Curious if others threaten suicide

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Submitted by Chmmy on Tue, 11/20/2018 - 4:39pm

Is it normal for teens to threaten suicide during a meltdown/ fight with parents. My siblings and i never did and my 2 adult children never did but that's all i have to compare it to. Both of my SDs have during a meltdown used phrases like I'll just go kill myself or i want to kill myself. May be drama? May be the God awful mother they have and they actually want to die at that moment due to emotional trauma. Their mom literally left them on the street with their stuff while she pulled away in a moving van with her boyfriend and DH picked them up and they have been his ever since.

Holidays not so great with skids

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Submitted by Chmmy on Sun, 11/18/2018 - 7:18pm

Skids are ruining my Thanksgiving. I cant even stand to be at my house to get ready for Thanksgiving so i leave all day til bedtime. My bios are coming from out of town and after our thansgiving fiesta the bios and i are all going to stay with my parents for the wknd. No way the skids are ruing my time with my boys. Havent seen my oldest in 6 months. Longest time ever.

Still married

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Submitted by Chmmy on Mon, 11/12/2018 - 6:43am

Made it through the weekend without a divorce. My DH asked me Friday if I even still want to be married. Since I am disengaged I used the phrase "not my kids" or "not my problem" a few times. He gets pretty pissed off and I dont know how to handle it. DH  tells me if I live here I should act like part of this household but he wants me to be darling SM but if he doesn't like my opinion on the kids & their behavior he makes excuses for them....so I disengage.

Marraige a good idea?

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Submitted by Chmmy on Thu, 11/08/2018 - 7:53pm

I think i ruined a good relationship by getting married and moving in. We fight about money & skids, things we didnt have to fight about when I didnt live here. The skids are ok. Im pretty disengaged so that's working for me but I still need to care for them when DH is working. BM lives to far to help out & they are actually not too bad when their dad isnt around. Once he is home I have to hide/disengage to avoid us fighting over the skids and his awful parenting skills. My kids are grown & moved out so there's no problem there at least.

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