It's so sad to read these blogs.  I read about another divorce today. Definitely a fear I will lose my DH. Ive been married 6 months together over 2 years. I see my future in some of these stories. Skids that grow up with no consequences and are not functional adults. We cant live like this forever with me constantly the bad guy, criticizing the skids, trying to set rules or consequences that DH cant follow through with and then the defensiveness sets in or he tries criticizing my kids who never lived with us and are college grads, independent, functional adults.

Years ago, my girlfriend was going to have brain surgery to remove a tumor. One of the risks was losing her memory . One of her biggest fears was forgetting her children and not being able to love them again. They were preteen and teens and not at a pleasant age. She actually confided in me she didnt think she could love them if they didnt come out of her body. Lol

I guess thats how we feel about the skids. We would like to love them but it cant be forced. I think the younger you get them the better the bond but BMs still get in the way.

Christmas 2016....DH & I had just starting dating and he recently got custody of his 4 kids. He really wanted me to be a part of his family Christmas morning. He bought them tons of gifts that I thought they didnt deserve. I also bought them gifts from me & my boys. They tore through the gifts with entitlement and basically kept asking what else til they ran out of gifts to open. I was appalled especially when I was told batteries is a stupid gift.

While stewing about the skids ruining part of my weekend with the bios who I dont see very often, they got jobs out of town, i need to take a moment to pray for the family of Officer Jimenez of the Chicago Police Department whose life was taken a week ago protecting others when a man shot his girlfriend at Mercy hospital.