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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 06/18/2021 - 6:08pm

It's been a while since i didn't post on my blog. 
To sum up, it's a big familly mess since DH and I had our baby (7 months old by the way). 

First ILs made big drama about it and denied our child. Then, they turn SD far from DH. We used to have him EOTW and half holidays before our baby birth. Now we barely see him, and when he is at home, it's not a pleasure at all : liars, false allegation against his dad and i, does whatever he can to short the stay.... 

Since last visit, in april, when we found out that MIL and SIL texted him to encourage him to lie about us ! 

News from BM, It’s a disaster

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Tue, 05/18/2021 - 3:39pm

Today DH called BM to have a serious talk about SS.

They stayed one hour on the phone, talking about his behaviour which everyday worst. 

 

DH learnt that SS falsely accused his step-dad of physical violence with MIL. She found out some text conversation about it. 

Plus, SS accused BM of unequal treatment between his brother (BM second son) and him. 

 

In addition, he started to fight at school and the director excluded him for 2 days. 

 

He his only 9 and i can’t believe how fast he changed. Only in few months. 

Next visitation planning starts now !

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Thu, 05/13/2021 - 5:19am

For the one who followed my story, i'm now stucked with a crappy dynsfunctional dynamic. 

My SS is completely alienated by ILs (especially MIL and SIL as FIL left far away many years ago). Everything started to collapse with our baby boy birth. MIL (and SIL who is a crazy one too) never accepted that DH had another baby. They concentrated all their energy trying to destroy our family. Because things didn't go the way they want, they utlimately used SS to settle theirs accounts. 

Is that holidays?

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 05/07/2021 - 3:26pm

Since my last post, things haven't changed with SS behaviour. 
For now, he is with BM but DH feels like he is really distant on the phone...

This make me think about what my life will look like, and especially holidays...

I have 5W of holidays by year. We used to spend half of them to my family. 
My parents have a beautiful holidays house and we used to spend time there with DH and SS. 
My parents don't want SS anymore since they see him as a threat of false accusation. 
If i want to spend holidays there, i will come alone with my baby... 

Thriller : Must history repeat itself ?

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 1:08pm

This blog post will be a little different from the older as i will tell the story of SO dysfunctional family.

 

Many many years ago, when MIL divorced, she decided to leave her children to their grand parents (her own parents) and to focus on her niece. 

 

This little girl lived with her mother (MIL sister) and her stepfater. This man had a good career and MIL was deeply jealous of the couple. 

When the couple had a baby, problems began. The niece was pushed by MIL to lie about bad treatment. 

When SS is used as a weapon to destroy my family

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 6:45am

It has been few weeks since SS9 made his big drama, manipulated by ILs.

MIL and SIL are incredibly jealous of the family we built SO and I. This jealousy exploded when my son was born, few months ago. 

 

We cut every links, so they use the last weapon : poor SS. 

I used to have a good relationship with him. I used to share time and sweetness. We were confident about our family balance before my son birth.

Why am i becoming a selfish monster ?

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 3:02pm

In 5 months i went from a SS loving state of mind (including expecting my son will have his charactere) to anxious thoughts when it comes to him. 
 

I deeply know it's not his own falt at all. I deeply know i crystallize all the tension on him. 
I understand it's all about ILs, and a bit about SO (who were scared and apologized for making a new child at the begining). 
 

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Becoming a new mon in a blended family

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 11:17am

I jumped in blended adventure many years ago with my BF who has a 9yo son. 
During all those years, we had a beautiful relationship and i was close to my SS. 

Then, last year, i became pregnant.
During all my pregnancy, everything and everyone were focused on SS and his well-being. 
How will he react? What should we do to let him find his place in this new family? 
I have always been highly concerned by him, always loving, gentle.... including during this period. 

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