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Submitted by AJanie on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 9:51am

DH had court for his worker's comp case the other day and he is officially cleared to go back to work... only problem is the company terminated his position (which is figured would happen) and now he is unemployed.

He thought there would be some sort of grace period for his benefits for him to find a new job but apparently it is over, done, finished and he now has no income.

Do you display old photos in your home...

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Submitted by AJanie on Tue, 03/07/2017 - 8:48am

From before your partner and BM split?

I was irritated when DH wanted to display old pictures of the skids as babies that were clearly taken by BM. I know that is petty (but I don't care.) It is never easy to see the man you love in the most intimate moments & being witnessed by another woman.

I did my best to "get over it" so he does have a little area on his bureau where he displays a photo of SS/SD as newborns and the photo of his dog is on our bookcase, because the dog doesn't irk my nearly as much as the newborn pics }:)

Medical Appointment Update

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Submitted by AJanie on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 8:37am

So I go for my "trans-vaginal" ultrasound, always pleasant :sick: and then nervously sit in the waiting room with DH for the doctor to call us in to go over lab results and ultrasound.

I have never met the doctor; I usually go see the midwife for my yearly checkups (and she is wonderful.) The doctor, a middle aged male... was not so wonderful. On scale of 1-10 I would give his bedside manner a 3, and that is being nice.

Medical Appointment

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Submitted by AJanie on Wed, 03/01/2017 - 8:48am

I have my "fertility" appointment today. I will have an ultrasound (internal? external? I have no clue) and then meet with some male doctor I have never met to go over my Day 3, Day 21 bloodtests and the findings of the ultrasound.

DH switched days with BM so the skids won't be around and he can come with me.

Skids have left the building and all is right in the world again.

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Submitted by AJanie on Mon, 02/27/2017 - 9:57am

The 5 days with skids are over. Biggrin

DH did *slightly better limiting screen time and paying attention to SS's behavior.

Examples: Video games went off and SS had to watch a family movie Saturday instead of gaming until bed (my suggestion). He went to the zoo with us one day - seemed to really enjoy himself. He was 'forced' to go to church (which he declared was "retarded" on our way out).

14 days of zen

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Submitted by AJanie on Thu, 02/23/2017 - 2:20pm

I am challenging myself to 2 weeks of no nagging and no attitude toward my husband. I hate the word nag. I hate that I became one. I hate the sound of my high pitched voice when I babble on about something I shouldn't have to babble about.

He keeps saying my tone and how I approach him is what makes him so distant. Apparently, I always have a "tone." Sometimes I will speak to him and he will say "see, talk like THAT more often and I will be more receptive." These are the few and far between moments when I am most relaxed.

5 days with skids starts today.

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Submitted by AJanie on Wed, 02/22/2017 - 9:35am

Well after a nice, quiet, week hiatus - the skids are back today.

DH and I are "trying to get back to a good place" as he calls it, so I set some boundaries for their visit... so I don't lose my mind and end up fighting with him and/or over-extending myself any more than I already have - ending up back in a pit of resentment.

'We' discussed the following this AM:

DH is to:

Thank you note

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Submitted by AJanie on Wed, 02/15/2017 - 8:48am

Just wanted to thank you S-Talkers who responded to my SOS yesterday. I was able to talk it out and get a lot of the irritation out before I said anything overly rude/out of line to DH - and potentially ruin a night that turned out to be very good.

SOS My feelings are hurt.

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Submitted by AJanie on Tue, 02/14/2017 - 1:34pm

Sorry for the excessive blogging today.

I have a DH/skid/BM situation that just arose, tell me if I should be hurt or if this is overreacting on my part.

I have been telling DH that SS is getting out of control. In fact, I caught him viewing porn last weekend. DH spoke to him about it, apparently. I just feel he is too easy on him, including with making church optional.

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