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SD Chronicles: Manipulation Tactics

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Submitted by AJanie on Tue, 04/11/2017 - 9:19am

SD calls me into her bedroom and "needs to talk to me."

She is clutching a photo of BM and DH's old dog that we have on a bookshelf and she is teary eyed (but it is a forced teary eyed - because this child treats the dogs she does have like shit). She says she is sad that she never got to meet the dog and so sad that her parents are not together. Then she says "my life is a disaster!" What STB 8 year old says that? A disaster? I worked all day and came home to that.

Monday blues

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Submitted by AJanie on Mon, 04/10/2017 - 8:17am

A bad start to a Monday is a special kind of suck.

My boss needed me to drop off documents to someone we will call a "higher up" by 8:30 AM.

I got up an hour early, then hit traffic on my commute. Then I had to navigate my way downtown, then through a federal building (security check points and all). I got to the person I was dropping the documents off to at 8:36.

This woman literally tore them out of my hands and said "is this it?" I said "yes, this is what they sent me with." She said "WELL YOU DID A LOUSY JOB," took them and shut the door in my face.

Ever have a frenemy?

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Submitted by AJanie on Mon, 04/03/2017 - 11:06am

DH introduced me to an acquaintance of his and a few months later I met his girlfriend.

She seemed extremely nice at first. Almost over the top friendly. We made plans and met for lunch, she was very open, we talked a lot about our relationships, life, work, etc. It seemed like we really hit it off... so I thought. She used to post publicly about how DH and I were her "favorite couple."

BM the drunkard

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Submitted by AJanie on Thu, 03/30/2017 - 10:11am

Last night BM arranged to meet DH for drop off a little later and at a parking lot, instead of at her house, because she was over at her friend's house.

I didn't join, I was home, so he told me what happened.

He said he pulled up and she pulled in moments later. Skids are plenty old enough to jump out of the car with their backpacks and go with BM, and that is what they usually do - quick and easy.

Positive polly in the house today.

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Submitted by AJanie on Tue, 03/28/2017 - 10:17am

I am feeling a bit more positive lately and not because things are better with DH, because they aren't. He is still waiting on a court date to appeal the worker's comp situation - trying to settle. He is still depressed about not making money right now and his depression is making the home atmosphere heavy.

Despite that, I am pushing forward.

As I said before, I cut monthly costs.

The SD Chronicles

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Submitted by AJanie on Thu, 03/23/2017 - 8:36am

Last night when I got home from work SD called me into her room and shut the door to "tell me something."

She came close to me and spoke in a hushed voice, with her rancid breath.( I really wish BM focused more on teaching them good hygiene. :sick: )
Apparently, her best friend's mom died at age 33, suddenly. The kids found out at school. SD visibly upset said to me "she's only 8 with no mom!" She got teary eyed and snuggled up to me. Hard stuff to deal with at her age.

AJ the zen master - update

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Submitted by AJanie on Mon, 03/20/2017 - 9:36am

My 14 days of zen wasn't exactly 14 full days - I think I made in to 12 before I had a wine induced meltdown. AJ+ pinot grigio + empty stomach = psychotic episode.

Things have still been difficult, but where there used to be a lot more slammed doors and silences, there is more talking or simply "letting things go."

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