I haven't posted in a long time. SD13 hasn't been coming over. Dh will occasionally go get her and take her for coffee or a movie. He has seen her maybe 4 times since Christmas. He does text or call her at least once a week but she is still angry with him. She was friends with my BS12 on facebook and she mentioned that she didn't go to her dad's anymore and was mad that he choose me over her. I have deleted her from BS's account as we don't need to read her foolish posts.
Sorry for the long lead-in to my question...

DH called me from work today and said that BM wants her cs 2 days early. I was in the middle of getting groceries with 3 children so I told him we'd have to talk about it later.

We're going on vacation for a week beginning July 21. SD13 has been here 3 nights so far this year and each time insists that she's not coming back. DH told her that she's invited on our vacation but we need to know if she is coming or not. He still hasn't gotten a response. I'm thinking this means she's not coming but maybe I'm just being hopeful. If I thought she would behave herself and not always try to start an arguement or always make insulting remarks toward us than I wouldn't mind. I honestly believe that if she comes she will only be doing it in order to cause trouble.

So on Wednesday DH said SD12 asked if a friend could come for Friday night. I asked which one and when he told me I said "absolutely not, anyone but her." So I decided to not mention anything else to DH until he said something first. He still hadn't said anything this morning so I asked him how many people I needed to cook supper for. He said "SD is bringing her friend." I asked if it was the friend I said I didn't want here and he said yes. I asked him why he would even check with me if my opinion didn't matter. He said that he knew if he told SD no that she wouldn't come.