I posted yesterday http://www.steptalk.org/node/45850#new

Last night I had a long chat with DH, he didn't say anything just gave me the "deer in the headlights" look while I talked.
I told him that if he really believed that I was the perfect wife (which he says) and he wanted me to stick it out then he must stop giving in to SD's emotional blackmail. I told him that yesterday was not my breaking point but it will happen soon and when it does he will know. I told him I'm going to lose it and go absolutely nuts, I'll probably give him a good beating (not really). I told him that every time something happens and he disappoints me to please SD and BM that it may seem like I get over it but I do have a good memory and when the time comes that I snap, I will have every one of these incidents on my mind.
He did say that he was happy to have SD here and I told him that really he just likes to be able to say "SD was here for the weekend!" He saw her for about 5 mins as she was hanging with her friend she brought. He actually nodded when I said that!
I also told him that it is very unwise to go against me to make them happy because he has seen SD only 3-4 times this year, that's not a realationship. If I did leave I really think that she's already so PAS'd that it wouldn't make a difference and she still wouldn't visit.
There were many snide remarks made by SD toward me and DH and I brushed them off but told DH that I was going to call her on them today if she was still doing it.
I also said that it never ends well, whenever SD comes here she picks a fight on saturday morning so we'll take her home. DH said he thought she'd want to stay until Sunday. He is either very,very stupid, or very,very hopeful.
This morning at 9:30am (I was in the shower). I heard yelling so I opened the door and SD was saying that she wanted to go home right then. DH told her she could wait until we were all ready as we had plans for the day anyway. It seems that she found cat poop under her bed (good kitty, lol). I think she may have put it there herself because our cat doesn't do that, ever. Anyway we drove her and her friend home she stomped up to the door and didn't even say goodbye. She did say that she was never coming back again.
Anyway, DH is definately on probation with me. I told him he has lost all my respect until he can prove that he still has balls. He is taking me out on a date this evening and my parents are coming to watch bd2 so we'll see how it goes.
Someday he will get it, right?