Unbelievable...
So on Wednesday DH said SD12 asked if a friend could come for Friday night. I asked which one and when he told me I said "absolutely not, anyone but her." So I decided to not mention anything else to DH until he said something first. He still hadn't said anything this morning so I asked him how many people I needed to cook supper for. He said "SD is bringing her friend." I asked if it was the friend I said I didn't want here and he said yes. I asked him why he would even check with me if my opinion didn't matter. He said that he knew if he told SD no that she wouldn't come.
I asked him why he felt like he had final say on what goes on in our home and he hung up, lol. Nothing like admitting you can't really think of a good answer.
Anyway, I was thinking of chopping down the hedges along our driveway. DH keeps saying that he wants them to stay. Guess what though, if he gets the final say on who stays here, I think I'll have the final say on the hedges. From now on when he makes a decision without me, I will do the same. I've tried every other method and at least this one will be fun 
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Sounds familar, DH loved this
Sounds familar, DH loved this bush that he had now trimmed into a giant purple blob that stands 4 feet tall in front of my new bay window. Finally had enough and I chopped it down to two very small bushes with no leaves. Hoping it would die and I could plant some rose bushes there. No such luck they are coming back. Neighbors asked me if my husband had done something to piss me off at the way I was hacking at the bushes. One guy even came by and said your husband is going to be angry, I said I don't care, my house too.
I was angry about something he did and chopping down the bush actually made me feel better since we had arguing about it for over two years since I moved in.
You do what you need to do.....
He has already had to chose
He has already had to chose me over her. She has come 3 nights so far this year. SD12 and BM told him he had to leave in order to have a relationship with SD. BM must get tired of having her there all the time and that is why she comes every few months for a friday night.
As far as money, DH has no access to it. He doesn't know this yet. I am concerned that SD or BM will demand money and he will cave in so after we get paid I transfer everything but the bill money into a separate account that is under my name only, I have been doing this for over a year now. If DH calls and says he's stopping for a case of beer or I know he needs gas, I will transfer the money over. This is so that if he tries to withdraw a large amount it will decline and he will have to call me and tell me what is going on first. He has in the past mis-spent money and has no idea what the bills are so that will be my justification when he figures it out.
I do agree that SD is using emotional blackmail on him and I think he knows it too. Like I said though it's only 3 nights so far this year that she's come so I can live with that, I guess. And I get to get rid of the hedges
TIme to start having your
TIme to start having your friends over without asking H. H can stay in his room.
Oh and get rid of the hedges. BUT definitely, have some people over without telling H
Even worse, he did contact
Even worse, he did contact me. I said no and then he went ahead and did it anyway.
Time to start your exit
Time to start your exit plan!! You don't want to be around when the monster he's creating becomes a full grown FELON!!