SS13 is driving me nuts. BF and I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Okay so where do I start.
As most of you know from some of my other posts, BF has three sons 6, 10 & 13. SS13 has been living with us for about 4 months now and SS6 and 10 live with BM.
BM told BF that she has had enough of SS13 and can’t handle him anymore and that he needs to come and live with us.
BF being the guilty father he was when SS13 first moved in cause SS basically got kicked out of his house by his mother (that’s another story).
Anyway SS13 is getting on both (BF and I) of our nerves. SS13 doesn’t get along with his brothers or should I say refuses to. Constantly kicking, hitting and screaming at them, yes I know that it’s how a typical teenage boy behaves but this is different. He can’t stand being in the same room as his brothers, sitting at the dinner table with them anything that involves them he wants nothing to do with, the look in his eye is actually quite frightening. It’s even gotten to the point where he doesn’t want to go to his mothers (EOW) cause his brothers are there. So when all 3 boys are together there is just constant arguing, screaming, hitting etc…. and it’s taking its toll.
As some of you also may be aware is that recently I made a list of chores that SS13 has to do everyday to earn his $10.00 pocket money at the end of week. Whatever chores that are not done a certain amount of money gets deducted from his $10.00. Well he doesn’t want to do any chores, he is always answering back and being very disrespectful. Mind you he is not only like this with me, it’s with BF, BM, grandma, grandpa, his brothers and me.
His punishment for the way he has been acting is his Xbox was taken away (anyone would of thought we were sending him to hell, the way he acted). He was throwing his pillow and his clothes all over his room, jumping on his bed, banging on the walls all because the xbox was taken away. He has no life other than school and the xbox. SS just doesn’t know how to entertain himself if he is not on it, so it’s world war 3. BF and I have both explained that if he behaved better he will get to play the xbox and do all the things he wants but until we see some sort of an improvement forget it. He acts 10 times worse if he isn’t allowed to play it or he will sit quietly for 20min and then expects because his been good for 20min he should be allowed to play and throws another tantrum because we say “no, 20min of sitting there quietly after 5days of misbehaving is certainly not long enough to be allowed to play the xbox”. SS slammed his bedroom door in BF and my face twice last night cause we sent him to bed because of his tantrums and disrespect.
We just don’t know how to handle this anymore.
Do some of you wise woman have any ideas for this situation. Any comments are appreciated.