Sweetheart, this man cares about someone else more than you. It doesn't matter it is his daughter, he has clearly shown you that. I understand your heartbreak, but he is not worth your pain, heartbreak and tears.

They don't change. I promise you that. When they show you who they are, don't make excuses for them, or think when this or that happens it will be better. It won't, the tiny monster he has created will get bigger and bigger, more and more demanding, believe it, it's possible for them to become worse as they get older. This little nightmare of yours will turn your life into a living hell.

If you stay in thus relationship, and I hope you don't, you will slowly but surely lose every but of self esteem and confidence you ever had. Please show some respect for yourself. Do not wait for him to change, refuse to put up with thus any longer. It will get worse. You cannot change him, you cannot change her, you can only change yourself. You can change the way you deal with this. You can stop accepting it. You can arrange counselling for yourself, you can take care if you, You can become a better and stronger person.

You have only invested two and a half years into this relationship. I guarantee you, keep doing what your doing and twenty two and a half years later you will be worn down and beaten. You will be living in a miserable relationship, and even though he may live there, you will be ALONE and UNHAPPY. you will have wasted your life.

Take back control sweetie, Get your self esteem back and YOU change your life. He won't, it will unless you stop it, be more and more and more of the same. You can fix this. You can make yourself better you can change your life. Good luck.

If they are at SeaWorld, change the locks. When they come home inform him that he can come with the constable to get his shit at YOUR convenience.

End of problem. There is no viable recovery from this kind of crap IHMO. In my first marriage I was hopeful that my XW would pull her head out of her ass and figure it out. Fortunately, she left me and gave me the freedom to move on with my life. My freedom to be happy was the best thing I got from my first marriage. The only other positive things I got from that marriage were a killer pair or elephant skin cowboy boots and a great recipe for queso.

My bride and I will celebrate our 19th anniversary in a few weeks. My XW is now on husband at least #3, has three out of wedlock spawn with the geriatric fortune 500 executive sugar daddy that she left me for and from the unsolicited updates I get from some of my friends who run in to her periodically her life has been shit since she left. We would have had our 25th anniversary this year. Fortunately I only had to put up with her complete lack of character and integrity and her toxic bullshit for 2.5 years.

Leave his toxic crap behind and move on to your own amazing future. No charity relationship project is worth giving up your own happiness for.

Good luck.

Sincerely,

I know how you feel. They are different till they suck us in. Men like this get us because we are ripe for the picking. Usually caring compassionate understanding people who put others first. Usually lacking in self esteem to begin with. Then they push us down even further till we end up questioning ourselves and eventually our sanity. It is not YOUR place to sort this out with his daughter, it is his place to sort it out with her. It is his place to put you first and to teach his child manners and respect. It is all on him. You will NEVER make him see that.

Next. Time to move on.

Do not have another arguement with him. Do not waste your breath telling him anything more than "leave" and "now".

I had this problem and someone on this site gave me fab ...advice! Here it is: DONT care LET HIM GO WITH HER ENCOURAGE IT. Soon he will see that he misses you and she isnt doing it for him. If he doesnt come around divorce him. It is not ok for him to be cheating with his kid. Why are u not at Sea World? Let me guess SPECIAL DADDY TIME... My husband brand new husband told me his daughter needed one on ones... I flipped and told me SHE WAS HIS PRIORITY AND OFFERED DIVORCE IF I DIDNT LIKE IT. SO when I got the advice on here to not care and encourage it he actually told me that he wasnt going and to stop insisting that he go.!!!!!!!!!!!! It back fired on him. Dont care see if that works

You are not alone. You are surrounded here. You will get honest feedback from those who have the experience of years and years. Listen well. Take the good applicable advice and use it... put the rest in a mental file for later. I am sorry you are going through this. To be in a relationship and feel alone is a difficult place to be.

we are in good company here. I know where you are as well. One on one daddy time seems to trump my time every time. Married just 2 years, So when I go off and have time for myself it really gets to him. So fair is fair. I am learning to do things I want to do and give them "their time" but it can be very lonely. Tomorrow I scheduled a little trip just for me, to see my grown son, without them, now who is complaining, not me. sd11 does not respect me or her bd, it can only get worse I am afraid. Counseling is helping a bit, but not getting what I was hoping for, a husband who sees some errors in his ways.

That behavior will continue on into the teens and 20's.....these young princesses turn into drama queens and the DH has no boundaries because they always want to make their little girl happy and it will ALWAYS be YOUR fault that it's not working, despite how nasty the SDs treat you, how obvious it is that they are causing trouble - still YOUR fault.

RUN.

And the house you live in? Will be ruled by princess. DH won't recognize you as "the woman of the house" because that would make little princess unhappy especially if she doesn't go along with how you set up your house.

Doingitforlove is correct. But it continues well beyond their twenties, it goes well into their thirties and forties, there are stories on this site to verify this, I would say it continues till one of them dies. This will be a lifetime of abuse for you until you change it. Your DH will only change when he believes he is about to be the loser.

My husbands daughter was disgustingly bad to me. Horrendously rude to not only me, but to him as well. No matter how bad she was, it was ALWAYS, ALWAYS my fault. She was 29 when I banned her from my home. She had just had her first child, refused to accept a gift from my hand in the hospital and even turned her head away from me and just stared at her mattress. I was once again humiliated by her in a room full of people. Then she had the nerve to get her boyfriend to tell DH if he wanted to see her baby he would have to leave me.

Part one where she refused the gift was according to DH, my fault too. I didn't say congratulations to her. When I told DH you saw what she did, refused my gift and turned away from me, did you seriously want me to then make a bigger idiot of myself by saying congratulations to her. His response NOTHING. You see, he even to this day cannot accept she can do any wrong. He can however happily accept I can. It's all my fault. Part two, telling DH to leave me if he wants to see her baby. Well that's not even important enough to discuss. He never spoke of that again. This is what he does, when she does disgraceful stuff like this, he handles it by pretending it didn't happen.

To my knowledge the last time he spoke to her was October 11 last year. Something happened a few weeks ago, long story, but I said, perhaps you just need to accept she does not want to call you. He said, how do I know she doesn't want to call me. I said, because the last time she spoke to you was October last year. Prior to that, You tried to call her a few times, she didn't answer, you texted, she didn't respond. You said, she must have lost her phone, (see the bullshit excuses), then when she rang 3 months later and you queried this, (how dare he) she hung up in your ear, and hasn't spoken to you since, that's how, again DHs response NOTHING.

So, to this day, he will still make excuses for anything she says and does. With men like this, nothing changes. You have to change. You have to decide how you want to live your life and set the wheels in motion for that to happen. You have to set boundaries, draw a line in the cement and refuse to tolerate any more disrespect and emotional abuse from your partner and his family. You have to accept that in doing so, DH may leave once you do this, Once you arrive at the place where you realise life alone, away from the drama and happy to be away from it, is preferable to life alone miserable and unsupported but living with DH, it's amazing how much change you can bring into your life. But nothing will change until you change it.