BB asking for SD's stuff....
My DH,has been gone 10 days. He did take lots of things with him, but has lots of belongings left to go.....He is not speaking to me as I left messages regarding when are you coming to get your stuff, to make arrangements....meanwhile BBag, phones me and asks if she can come over to get the toys from the basement SD's and their DVD's. The dvd's belonged to the family and were not exclusively for her kids....these things were bought by myself and not from her house.....the nerve of the woman....I didn't respond back to her voicemail....but the more I think of it....it irks me.....
What do you think....I don't really have a right to give her the toys that my husband had for his kids....She was trying to bait me with my oldest SD wants to come over and say hi, this way she could point out to her mommy what things she wants.....no way....
tertwos...
I wouldn't have anything to do with her....
your moving on and getting away from the whole sick situation.... don't respond to her and don't give her the time of day.... she sounds like a lot of unnecessary drama.
Give it all to DH
Can you give all the skids things to their dad? Throw it all in boxes and tell the dad to get his stuff by a certain date or it goes to the rubbish can. Tell him he needs to call the BM to distribute the things she wants and that it's not your obligation to do this for him. Don't engage with the BM.
Being irked can be a source of strength; it'll pass though and one day, before you know it, the irk will turn into indifference and POOF! No more drama from that "family."
the truth comes out..............
Well talked to BBag, she said that DH wanted her to get the kids stuff ....talked to DH....said he told her not to bother me and call about the kids stuff...they were discussing the fact that we split, and he was trying to get sympathy from her because I was so bad to him......she also unloaded to me all the abuse she suffered at his hands.....I came to the conclusion, that I am happy to disengage from him, and her, cut me out of the drama triangel....I made it quite clear to Bbag that I cannot give DH stuff to her legally....made it clear I will miss her kids, but in their best interest, I think I should not see them for some time.....she was dangling them in my face saying they wanted to see me....just to get in my house....to get stuff......told DH that I will miss his kids, and that in a few months I would love to take them out for a day and do something, just the kids.....he was fine with that....so this is where things end......I told her, I didn't want to be manipulated by any of them anymore,.....and told him, that I just want to be happy and free of all this turmoil.......
Just remember, if you carry your baggage with you ...into the next relationship it will never work....this happened in this marriage....I could also see by yesterdays conversations with both of them.....that neither had detached from each other .....both were still trying to blame each other for the failure of their marriage.....