Well if you know my story you know that we have been fighting in court for 2 years and finally my DH won placement of SS who is 4, for those of you following no one was ever the CP because they agreed in mediation to have split custody and placement my ss went back and forth every 3 days until the 9th daycare move BM made and my DH could not watch his son have to adjust to yet another daycare because BM did not like it if the daycare would talk to me. I am a teacher where I live and know a lot of daycare providers they never told me personal things but would talk to me, I am humane. BM hates me and told my DH she would go to court to take his son away from him so he would not be around me, well that blew up in her face and now she sees him once a week and EOW, however she seems to be taking it better than I thought. Recently my DH filled out papers to stop CS eventhough they had split custody and placement he still had to pay her 150 a week, so know her cs stopped because we have the child and I hope she will soon have to pay us, my problem is she wants to keep SS over night on Sun. and it is her weekend, but he is suppose to come home at 6 on Sundays to get ready for school on Monday, he is in preschool that she put him in, not telling my DH, which pissed the courts off. Anyway I have no problem is she needs to change her Wed. night to another night or if she has him when there is no school because she is a secratary at a school so she has some of the same breaks off. But I do have a problem with SS staying the night Sun. so she can take him to school on Mon. Mon. is Mommy day so she wants to take him and I understand that, however the courts want consistance for my SS and a routine, the same routine every night on a school night, my DH told her he would drop SS off to her house in the morning so she can take him, but she was upset and wants him over night. My DH asked me my opinion and he shouldnt have, I think SS needs to be in the same bed every night on a school night, he needs a place to call home, just like the court said, and we are his home, I think it is unfair to change SS routine and BM should just get him in the morning. My DH does not see the problem because we won, so who cares if he stay one extra night, well I feel if the court wanted him to stay the night during the week they would allow him to stay wed.night and they do not he has to come home at 7. Not to mention this order has only been in effect for 2 months and things have already been adjusted before, I think we should stick to the order for the routine of SS, he needs routine and consistancy. Now I know I have mentioned my dislike for BM before but this time it is different, I think SS should spend days with her when she is not working and he has no school but I do not think he should spend a school night at her house, this is not what the court wanted. Why is DH always so easy going, he feels we won so who cares if she gets him, but I feel that there is a reason he won and it is because he is the consistant stable one and not to forget BM appelied the decision so who know what she is writing down when DH lets SS spend extra time with her, probably that DH did not want SS so she got him!!!HELP what do you all think???