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Is anyone literally dreading the summer?

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Submitted by Motherof5@26 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 1:43pm

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Blended Family Issues

:sick: I am so dreading it when I should actually be excited. I get me meet my new little one. But honestly I really don't want the summer to come one bit.

Right now I have BD(5) BS(2) SS(9), my SS had ADD/ADHD, as I have stated in a few posts I have done. But I am also expecting my SD(11) to be here this summer too. I am due June 4th with little one and I have a feeling he won''t even make it to June 4th.

I honestly don't want to deal with any of the kids this summer. School ends here May 23rd, so its coming right up. On top of all that I know that I am going to be dealing with everyone in this house including DH. My sisters who are only 14 and 15 years old want to come up this summer, which I don't mind, it gives me two people I can stand behavior wise in this house. But at the same time I really want to ask them to take over for me just a few times so I can go leave the house by myself, but they are not here for that tho. On top of that they are only 14 and 15 years old.

I have been in the town I live in since Sept 24, 2013, Only seen my step dad, my mom and my two sisters once since I have been here. I have absolutely no family here. All of my family is either 2-3 hours away. I am even supposed to have a friend come up soon, cause I haven't seen her since two weeks before I left my last town. But, yet again, she has to wait for things to get done before she can come up and on top of that every time we get closer to being able to go get her we can't because CS has fucked him out of his check and it goes to BM.

They have a conference thing coming up to fix everything, but honestly I think it will be even more problems than there are now.

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 1:51pm

Have you considered going to mothers to have the baby and recovering?

It's silly to have step-children visiting you. They're supposed to be visiting Daddy. If Daddy isn't there full time, not working, then they should be with their mother. What's the point of being at a babysitters? Tell Daddy to either be at home or on a trip with them or leave them with Mommy.

I never dreamt of leaving my kids with someone else other than my Mother and that was just for an evening.

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Submitted by Motherof5@26 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 2:44pm

DH will be working the summer school work( he is a bus driver)Summer school here starts May 28th and goes to June 27th. SS will be going to summer school, but I will still have the other kids. If I went to my mothers I would have to take BD and BS with me and DH would feel hurt because I basically left with his son.

But I have been thinking about seeing if my real father can take my BD and BS(not the newborn) for a bit in the summer. But he is having some health issues himself, I don't think it would be a good idea. As far as my mother goes. She does not take any grand kid's of hers either for a weekend or even over night, unless my two sisters are at the house. If my two sisters are not there then its a no go.

As far as them being with their BM, SS is living with us because BM couldn't handle him with school or him in general. So he was sent here. Now keep in mind, that I am actually new to the whole ADD/ADHD problem with kids, yet she is the one that had him and he is 9 years old now. His DD is still with BM for now, until after June 5th. Then she will be here too.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 2:50pm

Shame on anyone thinking its unfair to make DAD be with his kid....I say this sarcastically. You would be leaving him with HIS KID, not his skids but his bio kid.

It still blows me away that these Dads want their little angels in the house but not actually in the house while they are home.

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Submitted by Smith75 on Mon, 05/12/2014 - 12:51pm

Yes!! I've separated from my DH and one of the reasons I can't bring myself to give it another go is because SD12 and SD16 have 3 months of summer break coming up!!! They live with us full time, so that means they'll be around ALL the time!!! I can't think of anything worse!! I find it hard enough being around them during school time, but summer break became the most awful time of year for me.

It's such a relief to know i'm not alone!